Many people's true colours come out too - once laid back women become stressed out anxious messes, once loving and sharing and nurturing men become abusive a**holes
I definitely get how hard it can be. Depends on so many things. I'd only known dp a year when I got pregnant, it was planned, rushed cus of our age but I think that's been an issue for us, we never had to deal with conflict and now with 3 kids and different opinions on parenting there's a lot!! In our case too me being sahm (accidentally) we've grown apart in many ways. He has his role and I have mine and mostly it feels like we live in different planets! I think having no family or back up here hasn't helped as we're so busy with house kids work etc we have no time for each other
My df and I have been together almost 10 years an out boys will be 7 this year. We are due to be married next year and we are stronger than ever.
DH and I have been together for 5 years this year. Our twins turn 4 in a few weeks and we'll be celebrating our 4th wedding anniversary towards the end of the year. I can honestly say having kids brought us closer together and we're stronger than ever.
We have been yogether 23years and married for 22. 6 kids (4 with special needs) later we are more in love than ever before. We have been through alot and worked hard to get where we are now. It has been worth it.
Me and DH have been together 10 years. Having DD almost killed our marriage. We got back to a great place than had #2. DS was very sick and spent so much of his life in hospital, then DH got made redundant, DS had surgery and DD was diagnosed with ASD all within 12-18 months. We have had a pretty horrible year and our relationship has struggled. We have always stayed together for the kids first, us second. I wish our relationship was better but we have worked pretty friggen hard to stay together! We push through because we know it won't always be this hard.
Also we were together 5 years before having kids, I don't think it's as black and white as "spending years getting to know them before having kids". We knew each other inside and out.
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