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    If they refused to acknowledge it, no. At least not until they did acknowledge it, sought help, and were managing it.

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    Thanks for the responses everyone.

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    If have kids with mental illness and grew up with a parent with mental illness.

    Yes I would stay with my partner and help them get help if they weren't hurt the kids or myself.
    If they were accepting the illness and getting treatment than It would ever cross my mind to leave.

    To me mental illness is no different to cancer or diabetes etc..
    Would leave partner if you thought they had a physical illness that they hadn't accepted they had yet?
    Don't get me wrong it freaking hard some days but love win out for me anyhow.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LoveLivesHere View Post

    To me mental illness is no different to cancer or diabetes etc..
    Would leave partner if you thought they had a physical illness that they hadn't accepted they had yet?
    Don't get me wrong it freaking hard some days but love win out for me anyhow.
    This. I have a mental illness and would be devastated if my husband wanted to leave me or not have kids with me because of it. Just as if I would if I had a serious physical illness.

    However, I do accept I have an illness and take responsibility for my treatment. And I told DH very early in our relationship about my illness so he was aware.

    Luckily he loves me just how I am, and supports me every step of the way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by monnie24 View Post
    If he was getting help then yes.

    #breakstigma
    Hard to get help if you refuse to acknowledge it.

    No, OP, I wouldn't.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Patience86 View Post
    This. I have a mental illness and would be devastated if my husband wanted to leave me or not have kids with me because of it. Just as if I would if I had a serious physical illness.

    However, I do accept I have an illness and take responsibility for my treatment. And I told DH very early in our relationship about my illness so he was aware.

    Luckily he loves me just how I am, and supports me every step of the way.
    This is me too. I thought society was overcoming the stigma of mental health issues, but reading this thread makes me think otherwise.

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    That they refused to acknowledge? I don't know. I mean...yes, I'd still want to be in the relationship. I'd try to work with them to address it, in their own time. In the end, it would depend on the specifics of the situation.

    If my partner had a mental illness (he does), wouldn't acknowledge it (he wouldn't for a long time) and major life decisions like having children would have a significantly negative impact on him (we're just about to have bub #2, and had this happened a year earlier it could have cost DP his life) then...yeah there'd be a time limit on how long I could deal with that.

    Of course, as I say, it depends on details. If I suspected something was up, and thought that having children at that point could be detrimental, then I'd put off having children and focus on my partner. If it had been 10 years of denial, then that would be a different story.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Probably not. Having kids is hard enough without having a partner that isn't 100% on board.
    Can you clarify what you mean by 'on board'?

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    Quote Originally Posted by harvs View Post
    Can you clarify what you mean by 'on board'?
    Being in the best position you can be (which in the case of mental illness would involve seeking treatment )

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    Quote Originally Posted by LoveLivesHere View Post

    To me mental illness is no different to cancer or diabetes etc..
    Would leave partner if you thought they had a physical illness that they hadn't accepted they had yet?
    Don't get me wrong it freaking hard some days but love win out for me anyhow.
    This, 100 times, this!
    As long as they were not a threat to others.

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