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    Your husband sounds like an @ssh@t.

    My ex was very similar. I felt like as well as having my baby; my partner acted like a cranky teenager. I had to tip toe around him, he expected sex every day and would whinge about the state of the house. He only complained, never offered to help.

    I left him and it was the best decision ever. Three years later I'm happy. My stress levels have dropped and I'm much better of financially and emotionally.

    If your partner is not being a partner in your life, you need to make the decision to work hard on it together or separate.

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    I would have suggested counselling if he came to you and said 'I think we're on the rocks and i'd like to work on it' not 'promise you'll give me sex more often cook me creamy pasta sauce'.

    Now with the added info about the other women, it all just seems like he's trying to guilt you into becoming the submissive little housewife.

    Why should the OP have to try counselling when her Husband is brazingly giving himself 'out' of the relationship left right and centre? (already organising somewhere to go and lining up other women)

    I'd be telling him to report back if the grass really is greener on the other side after all.

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    It sounds like your partner has already checked out of your relationship and tbh, if he doesn't want to be a committed father or partner then I would seriously consider a trial separation.

    It doesn't have to be forever it could just give you both the distance and time you need to figure out what you want without the threat of him leaving if you don't do x,y or z to his standards hanging over your head.

    Good luck xx

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    Thanks for the input. I tried to get him to leave then I told him I need to leave. I am now pregnant with 2nd child. I am not convinced but he so much better i think he is 'my wife in pregnant heaven' but i am still angry and dont trust anything to stay good for the long term.

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    Hun congratulations. How far pregnant are you? Do you want to end your marriage?

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    Hope for yours and the children's sake he has made changes and things work out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by misskittyfantastico View Post
    It sounds like your partner has already checked out of your relationship and tbh, if he doesn't want to be a committed father or partner then I would seriously consider a trial separation.
    Like a PP said, I would call his bluff and NOT call it a "trial" separation. Even though you have a new baby coming, I suspect you might find you're all much happier without him.

    Also, even assuming he has a job, I think he'll probably be living more like a student's lifestyle, than as a Young Single Guy, as he'll have extra expenses, his own rent etc, Child Support, and the possibility of paying back some of the money you brought to the relationship.

    Good Luck
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    Quote Originally Posted by misskittyfantastico View Post
    It sounds like your partner has already checked out of your relationship and tbh, if he doesn't want to be a committed father or partner then I would seriously consider a trial separation.
    Like a PP said, I would call his bluff and NOT call it a "trial" separation. Even though you have a new baby coming, I suspect you might find you're all much happier without him.

    Also, even assuming he has a job, I think he'll probably be living more like a student's lifestyle, than as a Young Single Guy, as he'll have extra expenses, his own rent etc, Child Support, and the possibility of paying back some of the money you brought to the relationship.

    Good Luck
    xx

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    Quote Originally Posted by misskittyfantastico View Post
    It sounds like your partner has already checked out of your relationship and tbh, if he doesn't want to be a committed father or partner then I would seriously consider a trial separation.
    Like a PP said, I would call his bluff and NOT call it a "trial" separation. Even though you have a new baby coming, I suspect you might find you're all much happier without him.

    Also, even assuming he has a job, I think he'll probably be living more like a student's lifestyle, than as a Young Single Guy, as he'll have extra expenses, his own rent etc, Child Support, and have possibility of paying back some of the money you brought to the relationship.

    Good Luck xx

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    Quote Originally Posted by misskittyfantastico View Post
    It sounds like your partner has already checked out of your relationship and tbh, if he doesn't want to be a committed father or partner then I would seriously consider a trial separation.
    Like a PP said, I would call his bluff and NOT call it a "trial" separation. Even though you have a new baby coming, I suspect you might find you're all much happier without him.

    Also, even assuming he has a job, I think he'll probably be living more like a student's lifestyle, than as a Young Single Guy, as he'll have extra expenses, his own rent etc, Child Support, and the possibility of paying back some of the money you brought to the relationship.

    Good Luck
    xx


 

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