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    I will let this friend know how hurtful this is and then leave them to decide what they want. Might be time to walk away from the friendship. I'm not okay with a secret friendship.

    I will do my best at the wedding but wow it will take all my energy.

    Thank you everyone.

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    So doesn't that make her just as bad as your SIL ? Trying to keep SIL happy and you happy ? Very Strange.... Depends what this friend will then share with your SIL that you wouldn't be happy with - is what it really comes down to. Good luck with it all. If it helps any, I don't have anything to do with anyone that has anything to do with my ex. Not interested. So yep, dropped friendships happened. Such is life.

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    Sounds a bit too high school for my liking. I'd be boot scootin' away as quick as possible from both of them to escape the drama.

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    I think that anyone who chose to take SIL's 'side' is a 'friend' that you're better off without.

    The secret friend also sounds like someone who you'd probably be better off without too. Someone who thinks that its ok to ask you to be downgraded & degraded to being a dirty little secret is not someone who respects who or cares about your feelings.

    I'm sorry you've had to cop all this cr@p. Your SIL sounds like a real piece of work! Hopefully the so-called friends who chose the SIL's side will get to experience her true colours for themselves and realise what a mistake they made!

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    Default Friend keeping you a secret

    I think you need new friends, you deserve better than this. It's hard starting over with friends but it is do-able xx

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    I have an amazing friendship group away from this friend so I'm lucky in that regard. I have begun to distance myself from this "friend" now. I'm still in shock that someone would first ask people to pick sides and then another would ask for a secret friendship.

    Onwards and upwards!! Staying positive and strong. Thank you everyone for your suggestions and support.

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