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    ImageUploadedByThe Bub Hub1432633357.552708.jpg I'm not crazy right? There is definitely something there??

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    It does look positive. How do you feel about it? How does your BF feel?

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    Haven't talked to him yet. I have cursed at the air a few times.

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    I think it may be time to talk to him. How do you think he will react at the very real possibility you are pregnant?

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    We discussed the possibility of me being pregnant and he was very "you worry too much" about it all. I asked if he would leave and he was like "no way" and kissed my forehead. He very much wanted a baby (not yet, but wanted one) and I was against the idea. I wanted to have my tubes tied or anything to stop me from getting pregnant. I vomit non stop on the pill and bleed non stop with Implanon but still did 3 months of both trying to not get pregnant :/

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    Hun babies are a blessing - I'm just sorry that blessing may have come at such a stressful time for you.

    Please go to a doctor and have a pregnancy test. While you are there please have a chat with the doctor about the situation with your ex - there might be some additional blood testing the doctor can do to ensure you are healthy. The doctor may even be able to help organise counsellIng for you.

    Whatever you do if you are pregnant don't tell your ex about the baby. At least not until you have spoken with the police and have a dvo in place. Even then I would advise against talking with your ex at all let alone inviting him into your personal world by engaging in conversation about your pregnancy.

    If it is a false alarm then there's probably some lessons to learn which you are no doubt already aware of - if it's not on it's not on
    - at the moment you need to be focused on ensuring the safety of yourself and your existing kids. Boyfriend comes second and DH shouldn't even be in the picture.

    Hang in there. Xx

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    Haven't talked to him yet. I have cursed at the air a few times.
    Does your bf know what your ex has been doing? I can't believe he would otherwise he would have ripped your ex's head off.

    Hun it sounds like you need to start leaning on your bf more and being open with him. If you don't think he is up to supporting you on all fronts then that's also another issue of concern.

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    Thanks lovely. I'm hoping the meeting with dfvps on Thursday gives me some clarity and a plan. I did manage to talk rationally with my ex about filing for divorce. His response was "well then you need to find me a girl". He just makes me wonder how I ever ended up with him :/

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Does your bf know what your ex has been doing? I can't believe he would otherwise he would have ripped your ex's head off.

    Hun it sounds like you need to start leaning on your bf more and being open with him. If you don't think he is up to supporting you on all fronts then that's also another issue of concern.
    He knows. And struggles with it. They had a stand off the other day and I told him to get inside with the kids so I could deal with my ex. I feel like a shield for them.

    He wants so badly to do something about it. He even considered buying my house so he could call the police if he entered the property

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    get a DVO on your ex so that he cannot enter your property.

    If he is touching you in any way, without your consent it is assault.

    He cannot touch you. He cannot kiss your cheek, touch your face, hold your hand, touch your arm, put his arm around you or touch you in any way.

    as for 'find him a girl' .... not in this lifetime sunshine since when are you responsible for him?



 

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