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    Mods can you please delete this thread. I am just wanting it not to pop up as it is a very emotional issue for me right now. I thought that it would be a supportive environment but it's made me very upset. I'm sorry for the trouble - Thank you

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    Of course it's working vs SAHM, it always is. If it wasn't you would fight for your own entitlements but accept what we at home receive too. There is this constant passive aggressive superiority towards SAHM's on here. I'm sick of it.

    It's actually not an entirely different issue at all. It's the same. Everything you've said could easily be directed at working mums as well, every word. You don't want it to be the same bc it shows hypocrisy and sanctimony.

    Gah it's time to log off. It always falls on deaf ears anyway. OP I'm sorry things are so tough
    No once have i said that the OP shouldnt have stayed at home. I said that that payment decreases when your percieved to be able to work, therefore your need to go on another payment or figure something out suitable to your circumstance.

    I think your letting your own issues with sahm vs wm get the better of you on this one, because that really wasnt what anyone was saying at all. Of course everything i have said applies to WM. As i said, if we lose money we have to move or make other allowances. Money doesnt fall out of the sky for either 'team' and we need to make decisions on how to tackle the hurdles when they are thrown at us.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CazHazKidz View Post
    I don't know about other working mums, but I certainly don't think this at all. As a working mum who wishes I could stay home, I'd love if there was enough government funding for me to do so, but there just isn't, and so I have to work. I see absolutely no issue in the Government funding mum's to stay home and raise their babies.

    But to me, the funding ending when the youngest goes to school makes sense? It just does. I am very very sorry to everyone who this is going to effect negatively if it goes through. It would be a very stressful time for you wondering if it's going to happen and having to put plans into place. Sometimes life really just is hard, too hard sometimes!!

    I really really do think more workplaces need to have 9-2 working days for parents with young school children. If only something could be done about this.
    i agree. But I think there needs to be exemptions for children with disabilities etc.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CazHazKidz View Post
    I don't know about other working mums, but I certainly don't think this at all. As a working mum who wishes I could stay home, I'd love if there was enough government funding for me to do so, but there just isn't, and so I have to work. I see absolutely no issue in the Government funding mum's to stay home and raise their babies.

    But to me, the funding ending when the youngest goes to school makes sense? It just does. I am very very sorry to everyone who this is going to effect negatively if it goes through. It would be a very stressful time for you wondering if it's going to happen and having to put plans into place. Sometimes life really just is hard, too hard sometimes!!
    Yep I get what you're saying but a 2 income family on min wage can still get FTB B I'm pretty sure? So this isn't just a payment for SAHM's. What about the family where Dad is working min wage in a factory, mum works part time in the evenings and min wage and they get a small amount of FTB? That family now will struggle to pay the bills. This isn't about 'lifestyle choices'. For many they are doing it really tough.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ready To Run View Post
    Mods can you please delete this thread. I am just wanting it not to pop up as it is a very emotional issue for me right now. I thought that it would be a supportive environment but it's made me very upset. I'm sorry for the trouble - Thank you
    Im sorry OP, as i said earlier no one could ever argue you are lazy you have so much on your plate and its no wonder your feeling snowed under. Anyone would feel stressed in your situation. I hope you and your DH can think of a back up plan to make it work out in your favour in some way

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    Yep I get what you're saying but a 2 income family on min wage can still get FTB B I'm pretty sure? So this isn't just a payment for SAHM's. What about the family where Dad is working min wage in a factory, mum works part time in the evenings and min wage and they get a small amount of FTB? That family now will struggle to pay the bills. This isn't about 'lifestyle choices'. For many they are doing it really tough.
    Yes, that is me. Partner on very modest salary, me part time minimum wage, small amount of FTB which helps a bit. 1 at school, 2 at daycare, soon to be 2 at school 2 at daycare. It isn't easy to get by by any means, but I actually didn't even realise FTB was still paid after all the kids were at school, so it obviously won't effect me since I wasn't expecting it. I can totally understand how it would be a real struggle for anyone who didn't see it coming. I guess cuts nees to be made somewhere though It's a shame we can't all just live comfortably isn't it :/

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    Quote Originally Posted by CazHazKidz View Post
    I really really do think more workplaces need to have 9-2 working days for parents with young school children. If only something could be done about this.
    I couldnt afford to work just 9am til 2pm daily esp as a single parent. We would be lucky to pay rent and transport on that. What about other things like groceries and electricity?

    I already work 6.5hrs a day and we barely make it through even with the centrelink i get. I still got a few more years to go before i can can legally leave kiddo at home alone but if i have to do it sooner, guess i have no choice in the matter. Its either a choice of working(atm my job isnt family friendly hours as its shift work but stable in the hours, morning, afternoon and night shift with night shift being the most friendly as kiddo would be sleeping those hours and i could get back in time for him to get to school in time otherwise morning shift starts too early for BSC and cant do arvo coz i cant leave him home alone to cook and put himself to bed and i wouldnt get home til after 10:30pm.) or i could go onto newstart and not work even though i am capable of working?

    Its also not as simple as find a new job. Trust me, i been trying but i am unqualified in many things and people dont want to do the training. I could always go back to study but i dont think i could study and cut down on my work hours as for me to study, i need to be in a class environment as too many distractions for me at home or anywhere else to study by long distance.

    I shall continue to put my name down for night shift esp for when my dad passes away and hope for the best and wont have anyone call up the police or whoever about me leaving kiddo home alone so i can work.
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    The secondary income earner can earn up to $21000 before ftb b gets cut off when your youngest is aged between 5-18
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    Quote Originally Posted by heplusme View Post
    No once have i said that the OP shouldnt have stayed at home. I said that that payment decreases when your percieved to be able to work, therefore your need to go on another payment or figure something out suitable to your circumstance.

    I think your letting your own issues with sahm vs wm get the better of you on this one, because that really wasnt what anyone was saying at all. Of course everything i have said applies to WM. As i said, if we lose money we have to move or make other allowances. Money doesnt fall out of the sky for either 'team' and we need to make decisions on how to tackle the hurdles when they are thrown at us.
    No she was told in a passive aggressive way that she shouldn't expect the govt to fund her lifestyle choices of distance education (after explaining in detail that the only school she had access to had kids assaulting her children while doing nothing) and study and to go back to work like all you had bc people had to basically suck it up and just get on with it. That jobs were out there you just have to want them.

    I'm not allowing my SAHM status to affect how I've read this thread anymore than you've had your working status affect it. There is a clear us and them thing on here and working mums have come to treat SAHM's with such thinly veiled contempt and superiority.

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    There is a clear us and them thing on here and working mums have come to treat SAHM's with such thinly veiled contempt and superiority.
    I really don't think it's fair to tar all working mum's with the same brush. I have many many friends who are Stay at home mum's, and do not treat any with any contempt or feel superior over anyone at all.

    Nor do I do so on the hub.

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