I spoke to Ngala about s week ago to try to teach my baby who's 15 weeks old to self settle. Until now she's sleays fed to sleep. They suggested have a nighttime routine and a nap routine which I've started. It always goes the same way; I do the routine and put her down. She starts to cry. At first I can settle Her by patting her in her cot. This works maybe twice. Then each time her cries get worse anf longer and I have to pick her up to settle her- this takes longer each time. So basically we go through this for up to an hour (sometimes more at night) and I have to cuddle her to sleep. Ngala said to do this because she will get over tired and it won't work.
I'm at a loss. I'm doing everything: get her when she's starting to get tree by looking at her cues and giving her new sleep associations like white noise and the routine. She won't have a dummy. I just feel helpless. If anyone could give me any suggestions or reassurance I will LOVE you. Thanks in advance.