20 years on I still struggle some days with grieve of losing my babies. It's such a complex thing. I know I blamed myself and my body for my losses. The cruelest thing that was said to me was to stop crying it just a bit of skin and bones.
Grief is grief. You would say to a newlywed bride oh at least you know you can get married if her hubby died so why does anyone think it would help a saying to a mum.