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    Quote Originally Posted by Mamasupial View Post
    I didn't say I don't encourage children to get along. They all need to treat each other nicely and with respect but children shouldn't be forced into friendships.
    I would say that friendship is a lot more than playing a game with children at school. I'm not saying you force a child into friendships or to invite someone they don't like over after school or for a play date.

    Purposefully excluding someone when they come and ask to play is not nice...

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    Good on you for wanting to do something with the teachers feedback. Maybe keep talking to your daughter about other people's feelings in a variety of contexts. Then talk about how someone might feel when they are excluded. Then talk about things we might want to do to help others that are sad. Then perhaps chuck in a few role plays with yourself and your partner/another adult. Ie in front of your daughter exclude the other adult, they act sad, you say sorry then invite them in and everyone is happy.

    So drop all the hints in the world to your dd and hope she comes to the conclusion that it's best to include others at school in the play.

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    Thanks for everyone responses.

    To answer a few questions DD1 is 7.5yrs old & in year 2.

    Ive had a good conversation with her this evening after her siblings were in bed.
    I asked her who she had excluded & why, she was very honest & named 3 girls. Her reasoning for excluding them was that they had all been playing a game being specific characters, the 3 girls left the game apparently to play their own game then came back and wanted to re-join DD was annoyed they were disrupting the flow of the game so told them they couldnt play.

    I asked if she had excluded them on other occasions and she said no she hasnt.

    DD1 is a very confident child and has been described as a leader so yea i think she has some social stance amongst her peers.

    We spoke about how being excluded could make someone feel & how its much nicer to allow others to play if they are wanting to.

    I think she 'gets' it but i also think this will be a continuing conversation that ill bring up regularly to make sure it stays fresh in her mind.

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    I also told her she doesnt need to be best friends with everyone but she does need to be kind & nice to everyone

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