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    Default Not coping. Again

    I'm seeing a psych and start to think I'm getting somewhere but a little thing goes wrong and I just fall to bits. Our kitchen was full of ants this morn so the usual school rush worse than ever. They weren't in food thankfully but through so much Tupperware which has been rinsed and now everything is lying on the worktops. I spent all weekend just washing and trying to tidy but the house is a bomb and my 11 mth old only slept for 20mins and is so clingy so I just don't know how I can dry and put away all this stuff. Has me in tears. This is not normal.

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    I just wanted to tell you that sounds like a really hard start to the day and I'd be crying too if I had to sort all of that first thing! Being a mum is hard work on a good day and when you're juggling so much at once you are bound to feel overwhelmed or stressed at times. Crying is a release for this stress and in my opinion a normal reaction when we feel this way. It's great you are talking to someone about the way you are feeling but the best thing you could do for yourself is not be too hard on yourself. I am guilty of doing this too so I know it's not easy. You did a great job sorting the kitchen out, just take the rest of the day as it comes and try and give yourself a break in there if you can!

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    I can totally relate to the cleaning. I can clean the house spotlessly all day long and the next day it will be disgusting. It is so frustrating. Hang in there, are you on anti depressants? If you are feeling that bad perhaps you could consider them, I had severe PND after my first DS and they worked absolute wonders

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    I agree with PP's, hang in there. We all experience those overwhelming days and you're certainly not alone in feeling this way.
    When I'm feeling stifled and things are taking their toll, I leave everything as it is and leave the house for a couple of hours. It's so easy to get stuck in the moment of despair. I don't know your circumstances but can you pop bub in the pan and go for a walk to a park? Or to a shopping centre/play centre for a break and a coffee?
    You will get through this- nothing stays the same for ever hun x

    Eta- pop bub in the *pram. Lol... Do not cook baby
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    Hugs. I got thru those clingy times by putting the kids on my back in the ergo. Last year I had my 4yo on me for 2 days straight when she was sick. It was the only way to get things done.

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    Thanks all! A cry, a vent and play in the park seems to have done the trick, feeling much calmer now. As long as I don't look behind me at the chaos!

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    I'm not taking anything. My first appointment with the psychologist got derailed talking about my older daughters behaviour and with having no family here and no friends with babies etc I think she didn't see my feelings of being overwhelmed as that surprising and never mentioned PND. But when I did the Edinburgh scale myself I score highly. I'm thinking of changing therapists. When I have really good days I look back at the last year or so and think I have been depressed, but not sure what that means for me now. I'm talking myself out of things better and today's cry was first in a few weeks so not sure I need meds or just keep going with counselling.
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    I can totally relate to the cleaning. I can clean the house spotlessly all day long and the next day it will be disgusting. It is so frustrating. Hang in there, are you on anti depressants? If you are feeling that bad perhaps you could consider them, I had severe PND after my first DS and they worked absolute wonders

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    Hey Freyamum,

    Honestly, a morning like that would have 99% of people in tears - especially with a little bub climbing your legs every five seconds whining! You're amazing. Keep going because you're wonderful.

    I'm glad that the park made you feel a little better - sometimes getting out is exactly what we need to do when it feels like the LAST thing we should do due to household chores/ etc.

    As for the PND thing - if you've done the scale yourself and you're worried do not hesitate to advocate for yourself, get the the GP, or change therapists and get the help you deserve. People with depression aren't always 'sad' they have good days too! Medication doesn't just stop you from feeling as sad - it helps balance hormones and chemicals in your brain that affect moods.

    There is a lot of stigma surrounding depression and it might make you hesitate taking medication... But if you had a really bad skin sore seeping blood and whatnot, you'd take antibiotics and theres nothing embarrassing about it!

    I really hope you start feeling better. One day at a time. You know you can do this, because you already are.

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    Not belittling your issues but I would have cried too.


 

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