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    Default Victim blaming major. #trigger warning#


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    It is never the victims fault however, there are sick people out there who take advantage of people. So just the same as I wouldn't leave my house unlocked, I wouldn't walk through a park or lonely place by myself at night. I shouldn't have to but I'm not going to put myself at uneccesary risk.

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    Terrible comment from the mayor. Very bad timing.
    It's a bit like when they say 'she asked for it' depending on what a woman wears.

    But Meredith also has a point. I do not at all subscribe to the theory that women are inviting an attack, but it's a sad reality that if we walk alone at night we are at risk.

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    It is victim blaming. A woman walking alone is not an "invitation" to be attacked! I have a right to walk alone without it being viewed as an invitation to be sexual assaulted. There are situations when a person has no choice but to walk alone. Instead of blaming the victim teach men not to attack women.

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    It is absolutely anyone's *right* to walk around anywhere they should so choose, at any time, and wearing whatever they want.

    However, there are people in the world who don't honour their social *responsibility* not to harm others. And this is where the disconnect occurs unfortunately.

    If I am facing the prospect of walking somewhere alone after dark and late at night, for example, my thoughts are not 'I have the right to walk wherever I want', but rather 'what is my risk assessment? Do I feel safe?' It sucks but I do think it is reality.

    But should I choose to make that walk home, after dark, at dawn, at noon, it doesn't matter when, and something should happen to me - then it is *never ever* my fault.

    That's the distinction I make, anyway.

    That mayor's comments disgust me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by meredithgrey View Post
    It is absolutely your right to be able to walk alone at night and in an ideal world this would happen, however the reality of it is that are some areas where it is unsafe to do so. Until people stop attacking other people, then you (both men and women) do unfortunately need to take some precautions
    Yes taking precaution is sensible however referring to the statement even if you do walk alone it is not an invitation to be attacked. I walk alone to my car sometimes after work because I have no other choice if I had to stay back for 10min everyone has left. I'm not inviting anyone to attack me I just have to get to my car.

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    I think the problem occurs when a person in a position of authority (ie the mayor, police officer etc) has a response which is initially aimed at making women "realise" that they have to take precautions that men do not in order to remain safe (and yes I acknowledge this is debatable!). I would prefer to hear a response that condemns the actions of the attackers and effectively says "We will not tolerate violence against women". When the first response of authority figures is to chastise the victim for not taking adequate self protection measures, it belittles the abhorrence of the crime. In my mind, it doesn't matter whether she was silly to walk by herself at night, the official line must be a condemnation of the crime, not its victim.

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    Not that it changes the issue being discussed, but this investigation has now been finalised and police are no longer seeking the three men...

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    Quote Originally Posted by calicocat View Post
    Not that it changes the issue being discussed, but this investigation has now been finalised and police are no longer seeking the three men...
    I just read that also. It seems as though it was a 'false claim'.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SheWarrior View Post
    I just read that also. It seems as though it was a 'false claim'.
    That's what I've read too

    http://www.bordermail.com.au/story/3...s-false/?cs=53

    What the mayor has said is disgusting and victim blaming. He definitely could have chosen his words much more carefully.

    However, this girl could have ruined the lives of three innocent people with her accusations. It's making me wonder why she has made this kind of story up? My only plausible thought is a cry for attention or mental illness. Makes me sad for her for a whole heap of other reasons.

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