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    He's your Dr. There is no 'outside the Dr-patient setting', or outside the Dr-patient relationship. OP, run, don't walk, away from this one. Any s!exual or romantic relationship would end in disaster. If you care for him, the best thing you can do for him is forget about it and find a new Dr.

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    Sorry OP I have to agree with the others on finding a new doctor and trying to forget him. From your first comment I thought it seemed okay but after your replies, it sounds as if he is being very unprofessional. If he was interested in you too HE should have severed the Dr/patient relationship!

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    I'm going to go against everyone else and say that maybe he is saying those things to try and flirt? And the whole thing about not dating patients surely that would be current patients and not past? I mean what about 40 year old doctors wanting to date who have had hundreds of patients and lived in the same town their whole life, there would be nobody left to date! If you are attracted to him and you think he is to you, get a new doctor and ask him out. You only live once. The worst that could happen is he doesn't feel the same and you can't see him as a doctor again.

    ETA - after reading other replies I'm not sure about the whole legal side of things so maybe check that out first if you did want to pursue anything
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    I have to say I agree with the others. I would find another Dr. Especially considering he talks the way he does to you & he's an OBGYN. Makes me wonder what other patients he sweet talks & says sleazy comments too??
    Are any of your friends or family patients of his? I'm only asking as you can maybe ask what he's like with them & if he says inappropriate comments to them too?
    Only you can decide in the end what to do. Good luck with it all.

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    The fact that you are a current patient of his, there would be no setting in which the comments he has made to you would be appropriate. Definitely time to find a new dr

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    Quote Originally Posted by SpicyTurtle View Post
    I'm going to go against everyone else and say that maybe he is saying those things to try and flirt? And the whole thing about not dating patients surely that would be current patients and not past? I mean what about 40 year old doctors wanting to date who have had hundreds of patients and lived in the same town their whole life, there would be nobody left to date! If you are attracted to him and you think he is to you, get a new doctor and ask him out. You only live once. The worst that could happen is he doesn't feel the same and you can't see him as a doctor again.

    ETA - after reading other replies I'm not sure about the whole legal side of things so maybe check that out first if you did want to pursue anything
    Still against ethical and legal lines. It just can't happen these laws are made to protect patients and regardless of weather the contact is within the surgery or not is irrelevant.

    My husband was 39 when we met and he managed to find a wife who he had never treated professionally. It's just not an option to date a patient and I can assure you that very few doctors would even consider it.

    OP, please leave this well alone. This man could loose his licence to practice and also get in a whole lot of trouble. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.

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    Can I ask how old he is/you are?

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    Now that you have developed a 'professional/business/friendly/social' relationship with this man, I think you ought to draw a line in the sand and seek a new Dr. All the remarks/banter/conversation that you have had in a 'non Dr-patient' capacity suggests you are no longer strictly 'Dr/Patient'. It is time to seek a new Dr. Then, you can decide if you want to continue your 'professional/business/friendly/social' relationship with him. If you don't want to bring it up with him, go back to your GP and seek a new referral, rather than seeking a new referral through him. Drs, lawyers and other professionals should never represent friends or family.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FallenAngel14 View Post
    To clarify some of theses conversations were had outside of the "dr-patient" setting. I'm probably not portraying things correctly. But he's not sleezy, he's pretty goofy actually.
    You are biased as you have the hots for him. You are not making an accurate assessment of the situation.

    He shouldn't re-accept you as a patient after he basically told you he wanted to bone you.

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    See I took the comments as his very subtle way to flirt as well. This whole thing is so difficult. Surely there is a time when it's ok-ish to date an ex patient? NoteToSelf I am 31 and he is 39.

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