+ Reply to Thread
Page 1 of 14 12311 ... LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 136
  1. #1
    Join Date
    Sep 2010
    Location
    Australia
    Posts
    176
    Thanks
    16
    Thanked
    51
    Reviews
    0

    Default Attracted to my Doctor

    So I'm finding myself very attracted to my old OBGYN. He took care of me during my last pregnancy, and have since seen him from time to time as he's been helping me with some stuff on a professional matter (non dr patient). However I've been having some issues with my lady parts, and got referred back to see him a few weeks ago, and the problem hasn't resolved it's self so my GP is sending me back to see him next week.

    I'm not too sure what I should do, my particular medical issue is very complicated and he is the best Dr around to deal with it. He is a lovely man, and I don't want to offend him by asking to be referred to someone else, but I am finding it very difficult to discuss my medical issues with him due to me being very attracted to him. I also have a feeling that he may be attracted to me, as he always seems very interested in my love life, and who I am dating/if I am dating etc. Should I just be honest and tell him of my feelings and that I think it's best If I see another Dr? Or just ignore it? Also are Dr's even allowed to get involved with patients or ex patients?

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Jul 2014
    Posts
    936
    Thanks
    651
    Thanked
    377
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by FallenAngel14 View Post
    So I'm finding myself very attracted to my old OBGYN. He took care of me during my last pregnancy, and have since seen him from time to time as he's been helping me with some stuff on a professional matter (non dr patient). However I've been having some issues with my lady parts, and got referred back to see him a few weeks ago, and the problem hasn't resolved it's self so my GP is sending me back to see him next week.

    I'm not too sure what I should do, my particular medical issue is very complicated and he is the best Dr around to deal with it. He is a lovely man, and I don't want to offend him by asking to be referred to someone else, but I am finding it very difficult to discuss my medical issues with him due to me being very attracted to him. I also have a feeling that he may be attracted to me, as he always seems very interested in my love life, and who I am dating/if I am dating etc. Should I just be honest and tell him of my feelings and that I think it's best If I see another Dr? Or just ignore it? Also are Dr's even allowed to get involved with patients or ex patients?
    Try to ignore it if it doesn't work see another doctor. Don't tell him and try to move on.
    It would be totally normal to have these feelings but you don't want to be having B grade medical treatment because you can't discuss everything with him and you also don't want to put him in a position that could compromise his career.
    Sorry OP

  3. The Following User Says Thank You to azelqra For This Useful Post:

    Wise Enough  (01-05-2015)

  4. #3
    Join Date
    Mar 2015
    Posts
    330
    Thanks
    60
    Thanked
    214
    Reviews
    0
    Get another doctor ASAP! It's not a road you want to go down.

  5. #4
    Join Date
    Apr 2015
    Posts
    2,228
    Thanks
    2,065
    Thanked
    1,928
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    What a confusing predicament to find yourself in

    The guidelines on patient/doctor relationships are clear - it is a big no-no, and he may risk his career if he were to enter into a relationship with you. This is taken from the medicalboard.gov.au website:

    " 2. Summary of these guidelines
    Good medical practice relies on trust between doctors and patients and their families. It is always unethical and unprofessional for a doctor to breach this trust by entering into a sexual relationship with a patient, regardless of whether the patient has consented to the relationship. It may also be unethical and unprofessional for a doctor to enter into a sexual relationship with a former patient, an existing patient’s carer or a close relative of an existing patient, if this breaches the trust the patient placed in the doctor.
    The Medical Board of Australia (the Board) will investigate a doctor who is alleged to have breached these guidelines and if the allegations are found to be substantiated, the Board will take action"

    If I were in your positio I would either keep my feelings to myself, or find another Dr.

  6. The Following User Says Thank You to Frankenmum For This Useful Post:

    Skyler  (30-04-2015)

  7. #5
    Join Date
    Sep 2010
    Location
    Australia
    Posts
    176
    Thanks
    16
    Thanked
    51
    Reviews
    0
    So if I find a different dr, I still shouldn't be honest with him about it? And I thought that seeing a former patient, was a bit of a grey area but still ok. Where as a current patient was a big no no.

  8. #6
    Join Date
    Apr 2015
    Posts
    2,228
    Thanks
    2,065
    Thanked
    1,928
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    The use of the word 'may' when referring to the guidelines about former patients does make it seem a little less clear cut, however I think that may be for circumstances where for example someone sees a dr a few times, doesn't see them again for many many years, and then reconnects with them in a social setting (eg. Runs into them randomly, not in a professional setting). I couldn't find anything definitive on it though...

  9. The Following User Says Thank You to Frankenmum For This Useful Post:

    Skyler  (30-04-2015)

  10. #7
    Zombie_eyes's Avatar
    Zombie_eyes is offline Formerly Diamondeyes
    Winner 2012 - Biggest Computer Nerd
    Winner 2013/14 - Funniest Member
    Join Date
    Aug 2011
    Posts
    9,354
    Thanks
    2,835
    Thanked
    9,033
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    Nope its still considered unethical

    Just over an attraction? Nope i wouldnt say anything

    If it was over love, perhaps id say something.

  11. #8
    Join Date
    Feb 2012
    Location
    Brisbane
    Posts
    1,393
    Thanks
    2,020
    Thanked
    829
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by FallenAngel14 View Post
    So if I find a different dr, I still shouldn't be honest with him about it? And I thought that seeing a former patient, was a bit of a grey area but still ok. Where as a current patient was a big no no.
    Even if you see another Doctor it will still be a 'no-no' for you to begin a relationship with your OBGYN. I can't recall the exact time period....is it 2 years?

  12. The Following User Says Thank You to Albert01 For This Useful Post:

    Skyler  (30-04-2015)

  13. #9
    harvs's Avatar
    harvs is offline Winner 2014 - Spirit of BubHub Award
    Join Date
    Jun 2012
    Posts
    9,997
    Thanks
    6,239
    Thanked
    15,895
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 9/4/15Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 2/4/15Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 19/3/15Busiest Member of the Week200 Posts in a week
    I would be questioning his integrity if he is asking a patient any questions beyond what is warranted by his professional need to know.

    For that reason alone I would get a different doctor.

    For that reason alone I would be doubting his integrity as a person as well and would try and cool my attraction.

  14. The Following 6 Users Say Thank You to harvs For This Useful Post:

    A-Squared  (02-05-2015),Busy-Bee  (01-05-2015),kim85  (30-04-2015),Lillac  (30-04-2015),SuperGranny  (01-05-2015),VicPark  (30-04-2015)

  15. #10
    Join Date
    Jun 2010
    Posts
    717
    Thanks
    780
    Thanked
    240
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Could the questions relating to love life be assessing risk for sexually transmitted infections? Just a thought


 

Similar Threads

  1. Bulk billing doctor vs non bb doctor
    By slipper in forum General Chat
    Replies: 6
    Last Post: 03-12-2014, 12:18
  2. Is there a doctor?
    By Hasselhoff in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 2
    Last Post: 17-09-2014, 18:07
  3. When would you go to the doctor?
    By Fadinghope in forum Fertility Treatment
    Replies: 4
    Last Post: 13-09-2014, 11:52

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Riverton Leisureplex
An Extreme Family Pass at Riverton Leisureplex is the ultimate way to cool off during the summer school holidays. The $30 Pass allows pool and waterslide access for 2 adults and 2 children, as well as a drink, popcorn and an icy pole for each person.
sales & new stuffsee all
Bub Hub Sales Listing
HAVING A SALE? Let parents know about it with a Bub Hub Sales listing. Listings are featured on our well trafficked Sales Page + selected randomly to appear on EVERY page
featured supporter
Be In Blossom
We offer physiotherapy run pregnancy Pilates, pregnancy Aerobics, and Mummy Pilates & Baby Massage classes with a focus on optimising posture, body awareness, pelvic floor support, back care and maintaining fitness, aiming to assist women prepare and recover from their birth.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!