@Charlie74 some ladies even do 50:50 donor and partner sperm to cover sll bases.
we did 50:50
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Thanks guys for the info re 50:50. We have severe mfi and we have lower than usual fert rates using my eggs (50% if we are lucky). That's the thing that worries me if we go down the ed cycle is whether our fert rate would improve using younger eggs. I'm thinking that it should but you never know. Hubbie currently does tesa to get the swimmers.
did any of you guys have severe mfi issues and did you have good fertilisation rates compared to own egg cycles???
So to answer your questions:
1. The process in SA was more streamlined and with much better success rates than here in Australia.
The current system here in Australia opens up and allows for a high level of exploitation of recipients... I could go on but won't.
The actual cycle is cheaper in SA but you have added expenses like travel/accommodation etc. we made it somewhat of a holiday as well.
The other deciding factor for us was that two of the doctors at CFC were part of the team to achieve the first successful egg donor pregnancy/live birth in the world. We figured our best chance was where the knowledge base was...
2. You could do just sperm donation there. I'm not sure how it compares as it wasn't an option for us.
3. Yes you can do both- we did. They even allowed us to split our donor eggs to do half with DH's Sperm & half donor sperm ( kept in separate dishes) so that we could find which would produce the best outcome. Any and all embryos produced are ours. (This was suggested by our Australian FS as we had 'vague' known issues with DH's sperm )
4. Yes the profiles include all that info and more (family history, medical history, personal likes/dislikes etc). Some agencies profiles are more detailed than others. We basically started with some 'must haves' and some 'would be good' criteria. (This can change as you go through the process).
In the end some one will 'jump out at you' and you will know when you find her - it will just 'feel' right.
5. We did ICSI both times. From my understanding it wasn't really a choice. It seemed to be how they do all donor egg cycles. (Yields better results??)
We are now 23 weeks with twins after our second trip to SA - be mindful that it isn't always the 'magic bullet' first go but the results certainly speak for themselves.
If you have other more specific questions feel free to PM😊
This coupled with my dodgy eggs meant on the OE cycles where we did get reasonable fertilisation they fragmented badly by day 3.
Our FS here in Australia recommended using DE (and CFC in SA). He explained that sometimes with MFI a younger donor (under 30) with good quality eggs can 'make up the difference' of poor sperm quality.
We ended up doing 50/50 split of our DE's with DH and Donor Sperm. It was basically a 'bet each way' to help show if DH's sperm had any viability.
For us the double donor embryos certainly performed the best (they are In the freezer) but I'm currently 23 weeks (twins) with DE+ DH's sperm so they can't have been too bad😉.
Looks like we are having a Sept cycle now so one month less to wait!
Emski it will be here before you know it.
I brought myself an ipad on special before travelling to nz over xmas and got gst back from tourist rebate scheme at melb airport very quick and efficient.
Congrats again CAMom! Enjoy every minute of motherhood. I know I'm looking forward to it.
Hi Charlie, I concur with all the other girls.
So you should have heaps of info to keep on file and in the back of your mind, should your future attempts with your own fail. But I do wish you lots of luck and it would be amazing if you had success and didn't have to worry about SA as an option.
- My reasons were because I'm old (46), very low AMH, IVF failed and got very few eggs. I looked into local donors and just found that they wanted to be included in the child's life - one potential donor had just come back from her female partner's previous donor child's 3rd birthday! So I could see that that is something she would have wanted to do also if I chose her. Another wanted photos for the fridge each birthday/milestone etc. I guess that's all fine, but I suppose selfishly, I wanted the child to be mine, not half someone else's. (God, that makes me sound awful!) In SA, the donor is completely anonymous which certainly suited me more. I guess just more comfortable. Plus you get to have the most amazing holiday ever! CapeTown is so beautiful!
As Blinky says its not guaranteed to work first go, but wow, there has been a pretty good run! There have be so many that have been lucky the first visit, and then those like me that were lucky on their second or Third visit (me). I'm now 21 weeks (on Sunday) and just so grateful to my young donor and the doctor at CFC and scientists for helping me create a life.
Hi to all you other awesome ladies!
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