Yay the fun stuff!!
Yay the fun stuff!!
Also......younger has better quality regardless of numbers usually.
Scale is good so go for it. I had no idea about my donors AMH. It is a reflection of egg reserve and NO bearing on quality. That is something we all need to remember.
Leyshoja - our donor's AMH was 4.49 and we got 24 eggs. 2 were transferred and we have 12 in the freezer. I am holding my little bubba on my lap as I type this. Good luck!
It's been a very long time since I posted but the above mention from emski was sent to my email so I've jumped in to say hi. (I don't get email updates anymore as I hadn't posted in the new thread)
Our little girl is now a 1 year old and is a pure joy. I have loved every minute of mother hood and all the pain, heartache and disappointment over all those years has melted away to nothing leaving nothing but tears of love, joy and gratitude.
For those that don't know my story I started IVF at 36 after years of natural and non invasive treatments all BFNs.
By my 38th bday I decided and our FS decided my ovaries where exhausted and it was time for plan B. I had considered DE for sometime before this as I had realised the chances of success with my OE was minimal. A friend had mentioned DE in Thailand and it was uplifting to know I had another option before adoption.
My FS was very supportive and gave me names of clinics he had had patients use. I started my research and found this thread and probably like most if you starting madly reading and felt so supported by others sharing the same experience and giving me confidence in the journey. At this stage the thread was only onto its 2nd or 3rd so a lot easier to read from the start.
We choose a donor (with all it's ups and downs and uncertainty) and went to jozi (also unsure about this but we were told she could only donate there) We have been very open about the process with all our friends and family but while there we didn't tell people and of course as we met others eg on safari they would say "oh your staying in jozi have you been to CT you must go to CT" we were like no we really want to see jozi which of course must have seemed very strange
We ended up with 2 eggs collected and both fertilised and grew to 5DB. Naturally we were hoping for some to freeze so without that I felt a lot of pressure on the cycle and didn't feel good about it. After the 2 week wait and a BFN and back to square one we were devasted it seemed so hard to pick ourselves up. We felt that the DE cycle was even worse than our own failed attempts as we had our hopes up so much higher with the increased odds.
We took a couple of months to recover before planning another DE cycle this time we opened our donor search to both SA and SA donors that travel to Thailand.
We ended up choosing to go to Thailand for many reasons but mostly again following the donor we "clicked" with.
On my 39th bday we got our day 1 fert results and had 4 embryos still not quite the number we hoped but at least more than we had ever had. This cycle had cost us 25,000USD so it's hard not to feel pressure. By day 3 we had 2 embryos left and they said they were growing slowly and didn't look good so they wanted to transfer them one day 4. Again we were devasted how could we be so unlucky to have two young donors both give us two to transfer but with no frosties. I had written it off and headed to the pool for a teary swim, wrote a post on the thread and to friends expressing my sadness, then to the hotel lounge to enjoy the free alcohol. We went to bed early knowing we had to get to the clinic early.
I woke up and decided there were two little embryos fighting for life waiting for me so I wasn't going to give up on them. Over the years I had collected so many tips for implantation and this round I did them all (all the easy ones anyway). I took a Valium and had a mini bar brandy in the cab (I was told it would warm the oven) I'm not recommending any of this but I did feel very relaxed and it was the best transfer is ever had. In Thailand they make you lie for 2-3hrs post transfer so I had a nice sleep and imagined one meeting in my lining. I had asked "does it ever happen at this point with poor embryos" he said yes that the grading was just like a teacher marking an essay they can't see the chromosomes so you can get variation in there grading (unlike PDG). That also gave me some hope. For the next 4 days I watched movies no swimming no stairs and just short strolls to markets etc
For the first time ever my gut told me it had worked, there was no logic to this so my head told me otherwise. I had blood in my crinone and no symptoms of a BFP.
I did my blood test and day early and got 26 - I knew it was low but I was beside myself happy and ran with it. 3 days later it was 116, then one week later over 5000. Each time was like getting another BFP. Over the whole pregnancy each milestone that is achieved was amazing and a miracle. Every day continues to be that way, I cry with joy at the smallest milestones as my heart explodes with love.
Having just celebrated Elke's first bday it was again an experience I had dreamed of but really didn't believe it could happen. Everyone says stay positive and I did my best but I was broken I didn't know how to believe when I had been hurt so many times. I didn't make our BFP happen with positivity anymore than me making any BFNs with negativity. You can only feel the way you feel.
I am so glad we persisted and hope that you too can find the courage and resources to keep on fighting for your little one.
We hope to try again for a sibling soon and we are planing to do our next cycle in Cape town as a known donation with Elke's donor who we know have contact with (which is another story).
All my love to you all, I hope my story gives you hope when all seems lost.
That's what will make it all worth it @Pixel. It's the only reason I keep going well said
AFM, flights booked, 6 nights in V & A waterfront apartments, 5 nights at the vineyard, one night inverdoorn Safari, air jaws day trip, kennels sorted, car hire, I think that's it for now. A bit late to ask, but we don't need visas do we ?
No, no visas for aussies
Wow pixel thanks for sharing
Thanks kmp nervous wait now, I expect there are going to be many of those along the way !
Thanks leyshoja good luck with your trip I look forward to hearing how it goes fc! And getting some tips on booking our trip !!!
If you are looking for cheaper accommodation going back Faith does have houses that I think are R 500 a night.
Our trip home was much better than the trip over and it was nice to sleep in our own bed last night and I don't feel tired at all today.
When is the safest day to do a hpt? I never really test that early I'm too scared to.
Got my freezing results from the lab, I find their grading system a little harder to understand. This is what their email said:
2XB4AA were transferred for your ET.
Six embryos were frozen and graded as follows:
Day 5 : 1XHatching blastocyst, 2XB4AA,1XB3AB
My donor that I didn't use - Day 5: 2XB2-3AB
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