Toddler is 2.5yrs and baby is nearly 9 months. Sometimes they can play nicely but sometimes...
It's like she (the baby) is a squeaky toy and he (the toddler) wants to make her squeak. Because a squeaky toy that squeaks is much more fun and stimulating than one that doesn't. And it also makes mummy stop what she's doing and pay attention.
So I understand *why* he does it but I'm looking for ways to encourage him to play gently, nicely, and suggestions as to what to do when he doesn't.
If he hits/kicks her and whacks her on the head with a book (like he has JUST DONE!!), I can't do it back to demonstrate that it hurts and it is not nice, because he laughs. He's bigger and it doesn't affect him like it does her.
I've tried talking to him saying - look, she's crying, what you did hurt her, it made her sad. I've tried pointing out the times her makes her laugh and smile. I also sometimes just send him to his bed for a bit saying that he must be cranky and cranky babies go to bed. We don't have space where we live for a separate time-out place.
Anyway, I'm just wondering what people with two or more do to have kids play gently with baby siblings. Thanks for any advice.