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    Default DS saying horrible things about sister- what to do

    DS (4 yo) has for a few weeks been randomly chanting horrible things about his little sister. Like "she smacks her face, she likes to smash her head through glass windows, then throw her in the rubbish bin." It's at no particular time. They could be getting on perfectly well, playing, then suddenly he's saying stuff like this with a smile on his face.

    I find this pretty horrific. I'm pretty sure he's doing it for attention, because he's looking at me, so wonder if I should ignore it. But at the same time it's quite horrible and want to pull him up on it and say it's unacceptable.

    Thoughts please!!

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    I would be pulling him up on it each time, letting him know it's not nice or okay to talk about his sister that way.

    He might just be a bit jealous of his sister and this is something he can get your attention with.

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    Do you have house rules? If so add "speak nicely about others" or "be kind" to the rules. Then pull your DS up everytime he says something like that - show him which rule he is breaching. Implement whatever consequence you have in place for breaching the rules. Be consistent and wait a few weeks hinges should improve.

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    That's really creepy and I would not tolerate it at all. Definitely don't ignore it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Do you have house rules? If so add "speak nicely about others" or "be kind" to the rules. Then pull your DS up everytime he says something like that - show him which rule he is breaching. Implement whatever consequence you have in place for breaching the rules. Be consistent and wait a few weeks hinges should improve.
    I agree with this. I think linking it to a specific house rule makes it clearer for him that there will be consequences.

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    Ok, thanks. I'll continue to pull him up on it then. But I'll be better at implementing a consequence each time he does it because it's not easing off at all. And I really want it to stop. It's weird.

    I think linking it to a rule like being kind is a good idea. We don't have house rules as such but we talk about acceptable behaviour a lot and he's pretty aware of how be should act. I might try writing a few down and putting them up. Good idea in general I think.


 

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