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    Quote Originally Posted by Meld85 View Post
    That's a bit harsh MSH... She's not saying she is just going to up and pack and move... They are sending out her husbands resume. They are just recognising that there are no job opportunities in the state they are living in.

    She was just looking for a bit of encouragement that if she did need to move interstate, with 2 young children, without family support which sounds scary to me as well.

    It's not always as easy as 'if your husband can't work then he can stay at home and you work.' If my husband was laid off tomorrow we would still have me at home and him looking for a job simply because I have nowhere near as income potential as my DH does.

    I do understand what you are saying but I don't think it's fair to point out inconsistencies when a member is using the hub to bounce ideas off other members.
    Thank you. This is why I posted. I have no skills at all I haven't worked since I was 18.
    @Tinkers yes it is hard when we moved to Cq I made sure I mingled with people and made friends. I still miss them dearly!

    Thanks for all opinions.

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    Quote Originally Posted by monnie24 View Post
    Thanks but he has even at agencies. Even at Centrelink. We are kicking them out to sell our property.

    And we moved back because my son was sick? So unless you have been rural with a sick child I don't think you have any position to have a comment. It did work out. Apart from DS being sick/disabled. They don't have facilities rurally.

    I don't work because I have over a hundred seizures a day. This is another reason to move because I want to be on the cannabis trial. I don't even know why I'm justifying myself to you on BH to be honest. We can do it, there is nothing wrong with leaving and moving. Just because we live with someone doesn't mean they are supportive that's a key note too!
    Actually i left my ex husband due to a sick kid and moved from rural to the burbs for my kids. But obviously.....that means naught. I have a severe disability that limits my lifestyle too. Again it means naught.

    You really need to make a game plan. Moving all over the place helps nobody

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    Only you and your DH know what is best for your family. If this is it than go for it! I'm sure you're not going to just pack your bags tomorrow and leave with no plan of action 😒

    Good luck!

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    I think you're in Adelaide yes?
    I'm from SA and moved to Melbourne, it was and still is extremely difficult. Melbourne is just huge, I wouldn't move here without having locked in a great job, it's very competitive! It's also expensive to live here compared to SA, travel times are so much longer than SA so be prepared for hubby to spend a lot of time in the car. My pov is probably one sided but I haven't warmed to Melbourne at all and I wish I knew a few things before moving here.
    I don't find it a 'liveable city' at all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by monnie24 View Post
    Now that Ds keeps getting more good news aprt from feeding etc I feel more confident within myself to move.

    Hubby needs to move in order to work (Melb/Syd) that's where construction really is. We want to start getting ahead again not this drag of no money.

    We have no support here. The kids goto childcare for us to have a break. I guess I'm just scared to leave and need encouragement to do so!
    I recommended the eastern suburbs to move to, in your other thread. I also know that a nearby shopping centre (Knox city) has recently been approved for a $450m redevelopment, so maybe possible work for your DH?

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    Quote Originally Posted by SummerFun View Post
    I think you're in Adelaide yes?
    I'm from SA and moved to Melbourne, it was and still is extremely difficult. Melbourne is just huge, I wouldn't move here without having locked in a great job, it's very competitive! It's also expensive to live here compared to SA, travel times are so much longer than SA so be prepared for hubby to spend a lot of time in the car. My pov is probably one sided but I haven't warmed to Melbourne at all and I wish I knew a few things before moving here.
    I don't find it a 'liveable city' at all.
    Which suburb or council area are you in if you don't me asking?

    Im terms of being the most livable, I think it needs to meet certain criteria. Some obviously wont be as important to all people.

    I am a little biased because I grew up 20km out of the City of Melbourne!
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    I am very easy going I don't care about traveling from Noarlunga to town by two bus's @SummerFun with two kids. I did it preg too.

    As long as I have a lovely playground, shopping area to do groceries and pref markets for food then I'm happy ☺️ we drive over an hour to get fuel in adelaide 😂 it works out cheaper for us! If my hubby gets a job anything will be better than benefits

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    I've lived in Adelaide, Sydney, Melbourne, & both Sydney & Melbourne both run rings around Adelaide for "live-ability"...!!

    Yes, mortgages/rent is more expensive in Sydney & Melbourne, but all other living expenses (electricity, gas, water, insurances) are WAY cheaper in both Syd & Melb - Adelaide is the most expensive city in Australia for utilities! & groceries cost the same, eating out costs the same, clothes cost the same....so the only extra expense really is either rent or mortgage, & the higher salaries on the east coast makes up for that & then some - we had more savings & went on holidays etc when we lived east; now we're back in Adelaide we're struggling week to week, with no means of being able to afford to move back east again. (Hence my husband is about to FIFO so we can save some money to move back).

    I know it depends on what industry your partner is looking for work in, but in our experiences, the east coast was far better for us.

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    Did you try applying for disability support with your condition? It must make it so hard to work with your epilepsy.

    Also you really have to pick your suburb in Melbourne. Some places are just so expensive with rent. Those close to cbd are so expensive like Coburg and Brunswick yet are really accessible for shopping as its one major road with everything on it. Places in north like Lalor, Thomastown or Epping all reasonable and a train station in each with accessible transport. A bigger Industrial area with alot of factories.

    Is it possible for your husband to spend a week in a state you want to live in and just madly apply for jobs by cold calling? Like actually walking into these places and giving his resume?

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    Quote Originally Posted by ProudMumma34 View Post
    Did you try applying for disability support with your condition? It must make it so hard to work with your epilepsy.

    Also you really have to pick your suburb in Melbourne. Some places are just so expensive with rent. Those close to cbd are so expensive like Coburg and Brunswick yet are really accessible for shopping as its one major road with everything on it. Places in north like Lalor, Thomastown or Epping all reasonable and a train station in each with accessible transport. A bigger Industrial area with alot of factories.

    Is it possible for your husband to spend a week in a state you want to live in and just madly apply for jobs by cold calling? Like actually walking into these places and giving his resume?
    Yes I get DSP. I've been on it since I was 16 unfortunately. Yes I say unfortunately because it means I've never really worked. I've never had a career or anything due to my epilepsy. I did about 9 months of aged care. I study that's what I do then never achieve anything because my anxiety gets the better of me! Hubby can qualify for carers but he loves his job and I don't want to be stuck in a bubble. We want to move also to be closer to the Austin. My last neuro app was with someone who flew over from Melb and he was fantastic. I want to get on the cannabis trial. I want a good life. I want to give my kids and myself a chance. 7 medications on a 24 year old isn't a life!

    He has sent through resume to some agencies and we are arranging to stay at a caravan park to look at some areas. People can frown and say it's stupid but unless your paying for our car loan, debts, insurances, medical bills for my son. We are about to have to take hubby's long service which is depressing as we could use that for when we deserve to book a holiday. Yes a whim is what we will do. Heck we don't pay rent here and my kids are under two and don't know anything yet will it hurt them to go on a 'holiday'. I don't think so? Is it wrong to find employment or stay on benefits longer!

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