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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    They are guinea pigs. Don't apologise, I asked for opinions. We got them for her to teach her responsibility and I'm not sure at 10 they should be our job but I do see where you are coming from
    If you are in Sydney i can see if my uncle would like some more or may be able to squeeze them into my rescue group. Otherwise have a look on the petrescue website under your state there may be a group specialising in guinea pigs.

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    Does she get pocket money regularly? If so I would just feed them and then deduct the money. She'll get over it.

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    If I was you I would punish her in a different way like having her miss out on her nessicities just like the pets are.
    This was a talk we had with our daughter as she wanted chickens. We said your not having breakfast until you have fed your chickens and before you go to bed you must tuck your chickens in.
    This has been happening for 6 months now and my DD is in such a routine she would not dare miss her responsibilities she committed to.
    Good luck with it all!

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    This is a tough one, OP. It's clear that you are trying to teach your DD responsibility and consequence. Personally, I wouldn't give them away. I'd take on the bulk of the responsibility but certainly insist she help; either by preparing the fruit and veg for feed and taking turns with the cleaning of the hutch. Maybe I'm a softie, but I'd lighten my expectations considering she is a child. Maybe have her clean the hutch twice a week rather than daily (either you or DH do it) so it seems less of a negative "chore" for her. Perhaps in turn she will once again find joy in her pets and not ignore them- it's likely she has developed a bad association with them due to the amount of work that goes along with their upkeep.
    FWIW, I've been there, we've had both guinea pigs and rabbits and I did it all by myself, the kids lose interest super fast when they realise it's not all fun and games, which is why I'd never get them again.
    It's not easy OP, I feel for you.

    ETA- It's hard though because if you lighten the load for her now, it's not really teaching her anything. Except, you could have a chat with her and say something like, you didn't realise that it would be such hard work for her, that you are willing to help but she still must do her part.
    If all else fails, tell her you are not willing to take on the responsibility for her pets and find them a good home.
    Good luck.
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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    Yep that's exactly what we've agreed upon. The tasks are clearly outlined on the whiteboard. If she doesn't do them, she will lose computer and ipod privileges.
    Time to add to the list of 'losses'?

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    I don't like the idea of giving pets away either. There does seem to be something disposable about it.

    However I think there is a flip side. I had horses growing up. When my interests changed, we sold them. Is this any different? Horses for example are bought and sold constantly. And that's considered perfectly reasonable. There are magazines dedicated to that specific task.

    Back to the guinea pig. If you can find a safe, loving home with another family, that's probably a good idea.

    In the mean time, your DD needs to care for her pet and the idea of removing privileges until pet care is completed is good.

    And a reminder of this the next time she sees a cute puppy/kitten/other furry thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by burlen View Post
    If I was you I would punish her in a different way like having her miss out on her nessicities just like the pets are.
    Interesting you say this. DH said if she couldn't even water her piggies she would go without necessities until it was done (he's all bark and no bite on that one lol).

    Quote Originally Posted by ~Marigold~ View Post

    ETA- It's hard though because if you lighten the load for her now, it's not really teaching her anything.
    This is my concern. I feel like no matter what we aren't sending good signals. If we give the piggies away we are teaching her animals are expendable. If we take on the responsibility we are teaching her she can cop out and gets to keep the pets but we do all the work.

    She is only asked to clean out their space twice a week, which DH helps her with. Her daily chore is giving them water and topping up their pellet/grain feed (I do their fruit and veg most of the time).


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    Time to add to the list of 'losses'?
    Those are the 2 that are most important to her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    Those are the 2 that are most important to her.
    I get that. But its not working, right? So add reading and going out to the list.

    When DSD wasn't taking care of her pet (hermit crap- yuck), we refused to take her shopping to spend her pocket money until she started doing it either without being asked, or the first time we asked.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DT75 View Post
    I get that. But its not working, right? So add reading and going out to the list.
    We haven't got to that stage until now. She knows now any further issues will result in loss of these things.

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    Does she play with them?

    I know with our little pets that if my younger kids are going through a phase of being lazy with them which means me picking up the slack, if I see them playing with them I'll barge in and take them off them, saying "oh these are MY lovely little pets, because I water them and feed them and clean their cage, so now *I* get to play with them and they are SO much fun and I love them".
    Then they get really peeved LOL, and start taking care of them again.

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