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    Quote Originally Posted by harvs View Post

    That was also the birthday when exMIL wrote in DS's card

    'Dear [DS]

    I love you so much. I want you to know that whatever happens there will always be room in my heart and at my table for you. And if your mummy decides she can't look after you any more, I will always be here.'

    So, yeah, maybe that's what annoyed me, on reflection :-)
    Yikes! Seriously!?

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    Quote Originally Posted by harvs View Post
    We wrote - 'no gifts please. Your presence is our present and your company is a gift.'

    Everyone ignored it. DS1's birthday party was a nightmare, so I don't know if it was compounded but I really did feel frustrated. I've learned to accept that the grandmas think such silly rules don't apply to them, but I was hoping others would respect it. That sounds really ungrateful - of course I was grateful for the gifts, but I was genuine that I didn't want any.

    That was also the birthday when exMIL wrote in DS's card

    'Dear [DS]

    I love you so much. I want you to know that whatever happens there will always be room in my heart and at my table for you. And if your mummy decides she can't look after you any more, I will always be here.'

    So, yeah, maybe that's what annoyed me, on reflection :-)
    Wow. She sounds like a peach!

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    Quote Originally Posted by harvs View Post

    That was also the birthday when exMIL wrote in DS's card

    'Dear [DS]

    I love you so much. I want you to know that whatever happens there will always be room in my heart and at my table for you. And if your mummy decides she can't look after you any more, I will always be here.'

    So, yeah, maybe that's what annoyed me, on reflection :-)
    wtf???

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    Quote Originally Posted by Frankenmum View Post
    Yikes! Seriously!?
    Quote Originally Posted by yadot View Post
    Wow. She sounds like a peach!
    Yeah :-/ she meant well as I had pretty severe PND at the time plus going through the whole separation thing. But no, it didn't go down well. At all.

    Sorry to derail, OP.

    For the next one I thought about writing something like

    Please only provide gifts that are non-toxic, BPA free, sustainable, biodegradable, gluten and sugar free, halal, kosher, vegan, paleo, containing no pesticides or artificial fibres, produced only in Australia by ethical companies who donate to reputable charities.

    I figured that means the same :-)

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    Quote Originally Posted by harvs View Post

    For the next one I thought about writing something like

    Please only provide gifts that are non-toxic, BPA free, sustainable, biodegradable, gluten and sugar free, halal, kosher, vegan, paleo, containing no pesticides or artificial fibres, produced only in Australia by ethical companies who donate to reputable charities.

    I figured that means the same :-)
    If I got that on an invite, kid would be getting a new pet rock

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    We do it for all our kids birthdays. Because the older 3 are so close together and we do 1 party for them, i feel like its a bit unfair to guests feeling like they need to buy 3 gifts so we just write "please, no gifts" or "we request your presence, not presents". Sometimes people will still bring gifts but its usually only close friends and it's usually something the kids can share like a board game. We will be requesting no gifts for dd4's 1st birthday as well, due to the fact we have so much stuff already lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by harvs View Post
    We wrote - 'no gifts please. Your presence is our present and your company is a gift.'

    Everyone ignored it. DS1's birthday party was a nightmare, so I don't know if it was compounded but I really did feel frustrated. I've learned to accept that the grandmas think such silly rules don't apply to them, but I was hoping others would respect it. That sounds really ungrateful - of course I was grateful for the gifts, but I was genuine that I didn't want any.

    That was also the birthday when exMIL wrote in DS's card

    'Dear [DS]

    I love you so much. I want you to know that whatever happens there will always be room in my heart and at my table for you. And if your mummy decides she can't look after you any more, I will always be here.'

    So, yeah, maybe that's what annoyed me, on reflection :-)
    OMG what a freaking b1tch. Tell me you burnt in front of her face.

    Mega hugs.

    You know this again proves to me how flipping strong you are. There is no way I could have handle a situation like that.

    Your such a good mummy.

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    For DDs 1st birthday we wrote something like "everyone has been so generous already and DD has all she needs, so in place of a gift you may wish to make a donation to help other children who are not so fortunate" or something to that effect, with a link to a donation page (email invitations). Most people respected the no gift thing.

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    I just received an invite to a 1st birthday party that asked for donations for the child's bank account in lieu of a gift. While that may be practical, I found it a little rude. So I got a gift instead lol.

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    I know someone who's DD bday is near Xmas time and asked friends to purchase a gift and place it under the Kmart giving tree instead. Very sweet idea.

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