I'm after advice on where to from here. Most of you know I'm not going to do CC/CIO but I am certainly welcoming knowledge/strategies etc from everyone no matter which 'camp' you're in :-)
So, DS was a terrible sleeper until about 18 months when he was able to be put down, one of us could walk out and he would self settle and go off to sleep with no crying at all. He would still wake in the night sometimes but was usually easy to resettle.
Then his CC got overwhelmed with babies and so, with my permission, they moved him to a little cot for day naps. This is when his sleeping habits changed at home at night. When I asked them, they said they were sitting with him because otherwise he would get up and run off the little cot thing. So, since this he can no longer self settle.
He is now 2.5. I have weaned him off of his dummy for all except night time sleeps but 9/10 times he will reject it. He won't sleep unless someone is in the room with him, and if it's me I usually have to hold his hand. The good news is once he sleeps he almost always sleeps through unless he is sick.
This year he has been sleeping later and later in the evenings. Last night it was 10. The night before was midnight :-/ it's generally between 8.30 and 10.30 but occasionally later. It's very difficult because I am losing practically my whole evenings.
I also think he is overtired all the time as he has been getting about 9 hours sleep and I have been limiting his naps to an hour at CC. On the weekends he will nap for three hours if I let him (and FOB always just lets him sleep).
A couple of times I have experimented with no day nap, with the result that he goes down easily at 7 but wakes for a party between 1-4, which tells me he isn't ready to drop his day naps yet. Is this correct?
Should I just wear the late sleeps knowing that he will sleep through? Should I be doing something about his day sleeps? I'd love to get back to the self settling thing. Am I right he should still be getting about 12 hours sleep total every 24 hour period?