My Grandmother has dementure ( and a life long attitude problem, but thats another thread ) and was admitted to hospital after a fall. My mother worked hard to make her home suitable for her to return to and have home care nurses come to her twice daily. My GM has been disobeying them and not taking her meds etc. This morning Mum has shown up to her place to find that Nan had dead bolted door (which prevents the nurses getting in). On top of that she has had a fall at some point and was on the ground. She had wet herself and had obviously been there a while.
The ambulance was called and she has been taken to emergancy however the hospital has said they will release her if nothing is wrong with her.
The issues are:
My mother is one of 8, and she is the only one aiding in the care of GM. Mum has had to take time off work to care for her (which she simply cannot afford, shes risking losing her house already). If she is releaaed into Mums care she will basically need to be a full time carer as she wont be able to be left alone. Mum cannot not work and honestly she wont cope with the frustration of living with GM 24/7. I know she will lose the plot.
I am of the belief that GM needs to go into a nursing home, but how does this work? Mum has been told it may take up to 3 months to get a place, and as mentioned above she cannot not work for 3 months.
How do people cope in situations like this? I know its awful, but i keep thinking there are so many elderly with no family, so there has to be options regarding the care of elderly, especially those with difficult conditions? I am honestly worried about my mothers mental/financial health coping with this alone.
It doesnt help that GM has never been a 'nice' granny, always sponged money from us and used to steal things from our home constantly. I think Mum holds alot of resentment towards her which then lowers her patience.
I dont know what to do