+ Reply to Thread
Page 3 of 4 FirstFirst 1234 LastLast
Results 21 to 30 of 37
  1. #21
    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    Posts
    1,409
    Thanks
    570
    Thanked
    391
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    There will always be people that judge. Sometimes I even feel like we need permission to do something that is completely up to us anyway. Do what you want to do and dont feel you need to justify your decision. Good luck.

  2. #22
    Join Date
    Feb 2012
    Posts
    1,125
    Thanks
    298
    Thanked
    368
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    you poor thing I'm sorry that happened to you.
    I had a severe 4th degree tear, however I have healed 100% and have no problems now. I am due this September and also having an elective C-section, this has been recommended to me by all the midwives I've seen and 3 doctors. I won't lie and say at first I had a small desire to go natural, but after hearing the risks of tearing again over such extensive scar tissue that desire is gone now. You do what's best for you! Stuff anyone else that says otherwise.

  3. #23
    Join Date
    Jan 2013
    Location
    Newcastle
    Posts
    2,279
    Thanks
    718
    Thanked
    1,112
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    ..
    Last edited by wobblermummy; 14-04-2015 at 18:34.

  4. #24
    Join Date
    Jun 2011
    Posts
    84
    Thanks
    36
    Thanked
    18
    Reviews
    0
    My goodness you poor thing! What a traumatic birth experience! It's totally fine to do whatever you feel is right for you & don't let anyone else tell you otherwise...your body, your choice. I'd defiantly be going for a C-section if I'd had the same or similar problems that you had with birthing. I really hope that you get things sorted & that things improve for you. I had an emergency CS with my first & am due to have a planned CS with my 2nd in 8 days time. Good luck to you💗

  5. #25
    Join Date
    Apr 2012
    Posts
    1,650
    Thanks
    792
    Thanked
    672
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    Quote Originally Posted by meredithgrey View Post
    Seeing as your hospital is recommending a caesarean, you're wanting a caesarean and with the problems you've described, I'd be definitely going the caesarean.

    Yes it's definitely possible to have minimal tearing after a previous 3rd degree tear, but you've already got so much damage, you wouldn't want to risk anymore.

    depending on how comfortable you are - you could either shock those people into silence by telling them the blunt truth about what happened last time and your ongoing issues, or you could just politely ask them to mind their own business.
    ^^This

    Don't let anyone else try to change your mind. From what you have written I believe that a c section will be more beneficial for both your physical and mental health.

    Sent from my GT-I9507 using The Bub Hub mobile app

  6. #26
    Join Date
    Apr 2012
    Posts
    3,266
    Thanks
    2,556
    Thanked
    1,262
    Reviews
    10
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    GET A C-SECTION!!

    I hope that didn't come across as rude but if you're looking for permission to do it then I wholeheartedly give you that permission. My first birth ended up in a emergency c-section and when we have a second I will absolutely be having an elective. There are no medals for giving birth naturally so do what you feel most comfortable with. The people telling you to birth naturally don't have to live with the consequences of that and aren't the ones pushing a baby through their vagin.as. When it's their body they can make that choice.

  7. #27
    Join Date
    Jun 2012
    Location
    Canberra
    Posts
    2,668
    Thanks
    1,041
    Thanked
    876
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Kazza78 View Post
    I had a 3c tear and I was told it's highly recommended for a cs. I just don't want to risk permanent damage
    It depends on the individual though. I had a 3c tear following forceps birth, then went to the post natal clinic for follow up a few times afterwards. Had a rectal ultrasound done and all was fine, no long term damage. So I am going for vaginal birth again as it's right for me. I've had a c section in the past too. So am making the decision based on all my own experiences.

    OP what you've been through sounds terrible. I hope you're getting some treatment for that!! Sounds like you need some further repair!! I absolutely would do what feeds right for you. So if that's a c section, go for it. It's certainly not easy, can have its own complications, but certainly doesn't sound advisable to have a vaginal birth in your situation.

  8. #28
    Join Date
    Oct 2011
    Posts
    4,466
    Thanks
    1,943
    Thanked
    1,158
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Bond Girl View Post
    It depends on the individual though. I had a 3c tear following forceps birth, then went to the post natal clinic for follow up a few times afterwards. Had a rectal ultrasound done and all was fine, no long term damage. So I am going for vaginal birth again as it's right for me. I've had a c section in the past too. So am making the decision based on all my own experiences.

    OP what you've been through sounds terrible. I hope you're getting some treatment for that!! Sounds like you need some further repair!! I absolutely would do what feeds right for you. So if that's a c section, go for it. It's certainly not easy, can have its own complications, but certainly doesn't sound advisable to have a vaginal birth in your situation.
    I was told my 'length'?? Wasn't long enough and it was also a combination of a quick 1st labour.
    And I guess I'm just super scared too of further damage. (That's just me though) 😀

  9. #29
    Join Date
    Apr 2010
    Location
    Melbourne
    Posts
    2,019
    Thanks
    352
    Thanked
    824
    Reviews
    2
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Of course you can have a c section. Regardless of how your first birth went, it's your body and your choice.

    It's also fine not to discuss your birth plans with anyone. Just don't enter into any discussion about it. Ime, if you say nothing about your birth plans, no one asks or comments. If you say you're planning a c sec, someone will have a horror story and / or an opinion. If you say you're planning on a vaginal birth, someone will have an equally bad horror story and an opinion on what you should do. Just don't enter into any discussions about it and back yourself.

  10. The Following User Says Thank You to preggasaurus For This Useful Post:

    ExcuseMyFrench  (16-04-2015)

  11. #30
    Join Date
    Nov 2014
    Posts
    572
    Thanks
    164
    Thanked
    582
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    If you feel a c section is the right choice for you go for it!!! You know your body better than anyone. If natural scares you too much, the don't do it.

    I've researched the hell out of different natural birthing methods and I thought I would give water birth a go (not pregnant and never given birth so my word probably doesn't mean much hah), but I honestly think c section is the right choice for me. My frame is tiny and I really believe I would probably tear horribly and do some serious damage.

    Don't do anything that doesn't feel right for you. And screw anyone who makes you feel bad. Your body, your choice!!


 

Similar Threads

  1. your age for first c section
    By Lirael in forum general c-section discussion and debate
    Replies: 127
    Last Post: 31-12-2015, 10:22
  2. 3rd C section recovery.
    By Kayangel in forum Caesareans
    Replies: 6
    Last Post: 18-05-2014, 20:43

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
sales & new stuffsee all
Transition into Parenthood
Birth Doula Training Course 2017 Sydney Transition into Parenthood
Join the training and find your special birth tribe of new friends at the fascinating, fun, kind, warm, and transformational training course. Be well rewarded for your wonderful work. Visit website for details and booking.
Limited to 20 places!
featured supporter
Philips AVENT Australia
Pregnancy and early parenthood is an exciting and challenging time, but it’s good to know there is expert advice on hand to ensure that your baby gets the best start in life.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!