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    Babyblooms, just as an aside, are you getting any help/been referred to any gynae help with your ongoing issues? As it sounds as though you may have a severe rectocele prolapse and with the damage to your sphincter muscle etc.

    I feel for you, and sincerely hope that once you have this bub you will be able to get a referral to a specialist to see about your bowel issues etc.


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    Oh I couldn't read and run. You poor thing, what a horrible experience for you. Of course it's ok to have a c section. Birth is about getting bubs out in the way that is safest for both mum and baby, and part of that safety has to be your mental health and bodily integrity. If a vaginal birth is going to cause you more damage either physical or mental then I (my personal opinion only) think it is imperative that you have a c sec.
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    That sounds so awful - I am so sorry you have to go through that.

    I had to have a C-section due to placenta previa. Everyone had an opinion on it. Some people thought I should still push for a vaginal birth even though it could be potentially life threatening! My advice is the same as the other posters - it is your body you need to do what is right for you. It is absolutely 100% OK to have a C-section if that is what you choose.

    I personally had very straight forward planned C-section. It was booked in advance, so we knew when bub would be here. We could plan and make arrangements. We checked into the hospital and were shown to our room to get settled in. The atmosphere in theatre was calm and happy. My DH was very relaxed. My DD was born within a few minutes. We all went together to recovery and stayed together the whole time. There were a few unpleasant things, like the spinal block made me a bit shaky and I had some night sweats. But overall, I had a very positive experience and a smooth recovery. I was walking the next day, had no issues with my scar and have had no long term complications.


    As for all the things I was worried about with C-section - they were all fine. I established breastfeeding well with no problems. I got skin to skin contact with DD in recovery. I had no issues bonding with DD. My scar is fading and not noticeable under my underwear at all. The pain was manageable with drugs and I was able to stop the drugs within a day or two of being home.

    I am pregnant again and aiming for a VBAC this time. But if I am really honest, part of me is terrified that it won't go as well as my C-section!! If I were you I would definitely have a C-section and I wouldn't worry at all about what other people think. I really hate the anti-caesarean comments. Sometimes it is the only choice, whether that is for medical or other reasons. And it is a perfectly valid one that shouldn't be judged at all.

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    I've had both vaginal births and a c-section and no matter how you birth, someone has an opinion about it!

    My advice is to block out the "noise" and make your decision based on what is best for you and your body. Considering the enormous amount that you have endured I think electing a c-section is more than ok.

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    More than okay to have a c-section!

    Considering what you experienced previously I think it's a very wise choice

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    You poor thing OP

    I've had a vaginal birth, an emergency c-section and and elective c-section, and yes everyone will have an opinion but no one said anything to me, maybe because I'm a midwife.

    In your case, with your previous birth trauma, I'd definitely be choosing the elective c-section, without a doubt. Don't let anyone let you feel guilty about it.
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    given your previous experiences I think you definately fine to have a c-section hun, its a free society and if your drs are willing to give you one and its what you want go for it

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    I had a 3c tear and I was told it's highly recommended for a cs. I just don't want to risk permanent damage

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    Firstly Luv, let me tell you how sorry I was to read about your previous birthing experience and ongoing problems since What a brave soul you are to share your story as well.

    Yes, of course it's ok to have a C-Section!!! Most definitely in light of what happened with your first baby, as PP's have said, it's worth doing just so as not to risk a repeat performance or make your ongoing issue possibly worse.

    But even if you'd had a textbook delivery last time, it would still be just as ok to have an elective C-section if you wanted one. It's your body and your choice Luv ok?? I had an elective C-section for no medical reason at all. It's what my DP and I wanted as we weren't willing to take the risks that come with a vaginal birth, simple as that.

    There are always going to be people out there who'll think they've got the right to judge your choices and feel the need to express their opinion etc but you know what?? Who bloody cares!!! What anyone else thinks/says isn't going to stop your world turning and you don't need anyone else's approval either for making what choice you feel is best for you and your baby.

    You don't have to justify yourself to anybody Luv. Believe me, I've had the comments too..but I couldn't give a flying f*@k to be honest. Doesn't bother me in the least what anybody else thinks/says. We did what we wanted to do, our DD was delivered safely and with minimal stress to her and I and it was a great experience for us. The recovery was really quick for me as well.

    Good Luck to you Luv

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    Well said @BlondeinBrisvegas, people seem to think they have the right to force opinions when it comes to childbirth and then child raising.

    @babybloom I think you're very brave having another baby after what you've been through and how you choose to birth is up to you and you only. Sure, a vaginal birth might go well but it may just as easily not go well and I dont think that's a risk you should take with your existing problems.

    My friend has such a traumatic vb that her child is going to be an only child.

    As a side note I hope you can look into getting a referral and seeing a specialist once you've had your baby as surely they can do something to improve your current situation.

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