Wow wow sooo exciting for everyone
I'm good too. Had a scan yesterday 10w3days and the baby was moving around soooooo much.
I've been so highly strung the last 10 weeks I'm getting excited now to be getting to this stage.
So happy for you ladies
@miraclestaketime thanks scan went well, all healthy! Very low risk of down
@Barca07 it does, a few family members and close friends! But not showing so won't be making anything public for a month or so AMAZING news on the BFP, congrats!!
@SanaD yay!! Why did you have a scan at 10wks? It's such a relief when you get to the stage where you know your risk and see it moving!!
I actually had 2 scans this week
My fertility specialist was on holidays so the stand in who did my first scan at 7 weeks said to come in for another. Which I did, and then the next day we had our first OB appointment so we got to see it again.
I've got my next scan at 13 weeks and then at my OB about 2 weeks later
Hi all @SanaD @miraclestaketime @Barca07 @Jenandsquid
We had a scan at 7.5 weeks with a good strong heart beat.
I had another scan at 9 weeks 2 days as I felt 4 weeks was too long between checking in on bub. It was so traumatic.
The sonographer wouldnt say anything and we could see our baby and no movement. I said "I just want to see the heart beat". The sonographer just said "Im having trouble getting a good picture". It looked fine to us but deadly still. there were no sound waves. She spent ages taking measurements and then asked to do internal. I said "i dont care what you have to do i just need to check my baby". Then she tried externally again and then said she would get the dr. It must have been about 20 minutes of terror with my brain saying "there is no heart beat" and another part of my brain saying "you're not a sonographer what would you know, the dr will be able to find it". The doctor came in and took very little time before saying "I'm sorry - there is no heart beat". Im crying now while I write this. It happened on wednesday. I went hysterical wailing "no no no no".
We've lost our baby. I cant believe it. After our heart beat at 7.5 weeks we were only supposed to have 5% risk of miscarriage. I still cant believe it. I feel ok sometimes and then I think about the fact it is real - our baby is gone and i fall apart. I jut cant believe it. We only had one embryo from our cycle. I'm terrified about the quality of my eggs. I'm terrified what the future holds.
We left our FS after our 7.5 week scan because he would never answer my questions directly. e.g. i ased for feedback on how my body responded to IVF and he just says "well youre pregnant". I question him about my 6 embryos fizzing out down to only 1 and he says "and it stuck". Now we have to book in to a new one who is booked out til end Aug. And after our scan I couldnt book back in to see him yet had not seen our new Ob yet. I have felt so alone.
We've been left in the dark. after the scan i asked what happens next and noone gave us any info. noone told me what to expect. I decided to have d&c to avoid the added trauma of passing my baby and my surgery on friday was cancelled and i have to wait until tuesday. that will be nearly 2 weeks after bub died (bub measured at 8 weeks 3 days to 8 weeks 5 days). Im sore and have pain now and Im terrified my body wont wait until then.
Has anyone else had miscarriages before?
This is my first pregnancy. at age 35. I am devastated and terrified.
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I'm so so sorry about your loss. I can't even begin to imagine how heartbroken you must be.
I'm sorry.. We had a Chem at 4.5 weeks, so don't really have any advice for you.
I wish there was something I could say, but I'm stuck for words...
I hope you can get through to your fs. Can you go to emergency? Will they help you?
@Barca07 emergency wont do anything unless you have started bleeding. And even then I dont know how easy it is to convince them to do a D&C rather than wait and see what happens naturally. If I start bleeding i will go to ER though and beg for a D&C. Problem is you still get triaged and miscarrying naturally is rather low on the priority scale and I hate the idea of sitting in the waiting room or even another room and bleeding for hours. my sister in law lost her baby a week younger than mine and miscarried naturally and her story is horrendous.
I just dont know if my body will wait until Tuesday as that will be about 2 weeks after bub lost her heart beat and I'm starting to get really sore in the tummy.
I have no option but to wait. I can see my new ob Monday and she can do surgery Tuesday (so long as it isnt cancelled again or she is called in to deliver a baby).
I just wanted to let you all know rather than just disappear from the group.
I really appreciate your kind words
Im so sorry to hear of your loss @furbabymum.
I had a mmc back in February. Similar to you, we saw a hb at 7 weeks, but the next scan at 10 weeks, our bub had gone. It sucks to be on the wrong side of the stats.
I had a D&C the day after the ultrasound- it all happened very fast.
It was a very dark time after the miscarriage. I remember it more of a black fog then anything else. No-one could tell us what was going on, what would happen next, when AF would return etc. It made a hard situation more stressful.
If you haven't already done so, the pregnancy loss support thread might offer you some answers.
Hugs to you and your DP x
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