So how would you handle it if your MIL and SIL were constantly saying to you what they thought was wrong with your child?
My ds is 4 at the end of the month and at the beginning of the year we went through the process of seeing whether he has autism/SPD or not. We saw 2 speech pathologist, a OTT and a very specialised Pediatrician, all which said no to autism/SPD but that he was an over sensitive boy and to make sure we are guiding him through his emotions in a way he can relate. He is a happy, caring, loving boy but he has his quirks.
Everytime I see my MIL and SIL they are at me about how he isn't like any other 4 year old they know and that they think that he doesn't process things like a normal child, it's starting to really annoy me.
My SIL has a boy the same age and a daughter 2.5 years older and my ds is constantly being compared to them, it has got so bad that they have even started comparing him to his younger sister. But the thing is he isn't actually behind for his age, he is actually ahead but just does things his own way.
My DH thinks they are coming from a place of concern but to me it just feels like they are doing it out of spite and nastiness. If it was just a one off thing I would think that way but it's happened so many times. At first they thought he had diabetes (such a ridiculous thing as he wasn't showing any signs of it), then it was that they thought he was having absent seizures, then it was autism/SPD and now it's that he doesn't process things like a normal child.
They never say anything to DH about will only ever say it to me. I've told DH that he needs to tell them that I don't want to discuss ds with them anymore and if they have any concerns to tell him. He has said he will but thinks I'm over reacting and being too emotional about it.
My family and friends can't see what they're on about and just love ds as he is, quirks and all. I just feel as though they are doing this to get to me which is really not fair on my ds. He is starting to see how they treat him differently and gets emotional at family get togethers because the 2 of them are just constantly watching him and looking at eachother when he does something different to her children or when gets upset and walks away (he never lashes out at another child if they do anything to him, he just storms off and sits by himself).
I'm at the point that I don't want to take him near them and I'm ready to lose my **** at them. What would you do in this situation, keep in mind that my DH doesn't support my feeling on this, just thinks they are coming from a place of concern. Help!!!
ETA sorry for the essay!