Good on you!
Standing your ground this time will hopefully set the tone next time she makes a ridiculous suggestion. Much better off saying no than having a hell trip. Build your confidence doing big outings gradually and at your pace!
Good decision Chillies!! I was thinking the same thing, it's unfair of her to expect you with a little one to drive all that way. If she wants to, she can make it happen. Otherwise she'll just have to plan a couple of days holiday & visit then. I understand she wants to see bub but expecting you to drive all that way is so unfair with a baby at that age. Good luck, have you mentioned it to her yet? Maybe get DH too since it's his Mum
How did it go down?
I asked the vaccination question as people who are going to have close contact with the baby should have it. Before you fly down make sure everyone has had it.
So I've told DH and left it up to him to tell his mum-it was him that she asked so he can respond. I'm pretty sure he is still trying to figure out something but I'm adamant that his mother travels and not us so I'm sure how indifferently he took it isn't an indication of when he realises we are not going anywhere!
I was also thinking about how it came about. She simply told me via fb she'd be in the state (she has my number)...then rang him later that night to see if she could have cuddles with her grand daughter after he 'figures out how to bring her to me' but that was after she outlined all the reasons it's difficult for her to come here eg. 'You know how sh!t I go driving long distances son', 'works paying for it and I don't have any money', 'I'll be there til Tues so plenty of time for you to figure out a way to bring her to me so I can get cuddles'...if only she'd make these type of plans to see his older kids who live 20 mins from her! :/
Last edited by Chillies; 09-04-2015 at 09:32.
Felt compelled to come back and let everyone know that MIL came down then went home...after the meeting was cancelled last minute! Thank gosh I took everyone's advice, so angry but hugely relieved right now.
See mil, that didnt mean the end of the world for you did it?! Glad everything worked out in the end with no tantys
Glad your dilemma was sorted out.
Thanks girls, appreciate it and so thankful to avoid the discussion!
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