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    Quote Originally Posted by Chillies View Post
    I would consider halfway however she won't have a car and 'doesn't have money to hire one either' so basically the only way she'll see bubs is if I drive to see her which I'm being (attempted) guilted in to
    No way! I wouldn't do it!!! She can't can't a train/bus? Bit of effort on her part

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    I'd be more p!sses off with your DH for expecting you too!!

    I think it's completely ridiculous and selfish of BOTH of them. No way would I even entertain the thought.

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    No, I would not do it.

    I drove 6 hrs alone with my Bub around the same age and will never do it again. It was too long and she hardly slept. I got about 2 hrs away from home and she completely had a melt down. Horrible experience.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wissa View Post
    completely had a melt down. Horrible experience.
    This is what I'm afraid of

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    Don't they say that to calculate the driving time with a bub involved you basically double it? So you're talking ten-twelve hours at least.

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    Hey Chillies,

    I don't think its fair on you or your DD. 7 hours is just too long for anyone, especially an infant. It's lovely that your MIL wants to meet baby but I would just explain that it really isn't a feasible plan. I honestly wouldn't even entertain the idea. I would tell DP it's ridiculous to even think that it might happen - you have a trip already organised and MIL will have to wait. It's not a bias thing, you wouldn't put DD through that for anyone.

    Be an advocate for yourself! Your MIL and DH asked - you said no. No one can force you to do this and you absolutely shouldn't be bullied into.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ScubaGal View Post
    Don't they say that to calculate the driving time with a bub involved you basically double it? So you're talking ten-twelve hours at least.
    When you put it like that-farrrrk that!

    Thanks everyone for making me stop questioning my instincts to put my foot down. I'm so worried about being fair to my in laws but really shouldn't at the expense of my child. Ughhh now just to tell them :/

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    Quote Originally Posted by Best Things View Post
    Hey Chillies,
    Be an advocate for yourself! Your MIL and DH asked - you said no. No one can force you to do this and you absolutely shouldn't be bullied into.
    Perfectly said, thank you!

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    I had a fair bit of experience doing long hauls with bubs.

    So on average every hour you will need to pull up for anywhere between 5 to 30 mins. To change nappies or feed or just resettle bub.
    So now your 7 hour trip is more like 10 plus hours.

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    I wouldn't do it. Particularly, if you are driving by yourself with the baby. And like PP have mentioned does the 7 hours factor in stopping for feeds, nappy changes, breaks for you etc... It would be a bit of a marathon for an hour visit!

    Hope you can get out of this one!

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