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    Of my MIL to expect me and my baby to drive (minimum) 7 hours one way to come see her because she happens to be in the state for work?

    She lives in another state and is due to fly down next week. My daughter has her 4 month needles on Tuesday, HATES the car and I'm expected to drive down on the weekend to see her.

    It would most likely be 7 hours on Friday then travel back home Saturday. I'm annoyed as she hasn't attempted to visit previously yet just because she happens to be in the state, it's reasonable to expect I'll travel 14 hours round trip so she can coo over her grandchild for an hour or so (enough to get pics for fb). DH doesn't see the problem.

    Please be kind in your answers, I'm running on minimal sleep here as it is.

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    I think thats rough. I certainly wouldn't do it myself. Is there somewhere half way you could suggest?

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    I think it's totally unreasonable of both her & your DH to think it's okay. No way would I do that with a bub that age, especially after needles, and especially if they hate the car! Not to mention its 2 x 7 hour trips in 2 days!

    Nuh uh, no way.

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    I wouldn't do it for any of my family and I adore them.

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    Unreasonable. I travel interstate for work a lot and sometimes I think crossing the city to catch up with close friends or family is too far.

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    I would consider halfway however she won't have a car and 'doesn't have money to hire one either' so basically the only way she'll see bubs is if I drive to see her which I'm being (attempted) guilted in to

    I don't want to interfere with my baby's relationship with DH's family but it's pretty hard when they live in another state. I doubt they would travel down so we are expected to travel to them for her to meet everyone however MIL is obviously seeing an opportunity to meet her before a planned trip and is pressuring DH to pressure me. They talk like it's just down the road. If DH offered to drive I still wouldn't want to go because she gets upset and I hate when she's upset. Why can't my MIL just wait?!
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    7 hours in the car? No way! With a baby?
    Nope. Wouldn't do it.

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    No way, I wouldn't do it

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    No way! Its not fair at all on you or your dd. Don't let anyone guilt you inti it

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    Um in no way is on to ask a 4 mth old to sit in a car for that long.
    Tell her 'she dreaming'. Seriously crazy.
    If she wants to see bub than she should do the driving.

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