So since this is in the 'no cry sleeping' section, I would like some advice to help a friend.
Her baby is 7 months old, she has been telling me that he has been sleeping through for ages now, but her DH often tells my DH that they had a 'bad night'.
She knows I'm against CIO and CC etc for my kids, and we have discussed it and I have tried to pass on some of our tips without trying to make her feel bad etc, but recently her DH told mine that the baby woke during the night and screamed for 2 hours until he vomited.
My friend has also told me that her DH used to stop her going in the baby's room at night for their first child (when she was a baby) (6 now)
The thought makes me feel physically sick. She is a lovely mum and I often feel like she knows it's wrong or it upsets her too and that her DH is controlling the situation.
Her SIL has said openly to her a few times to close the door and walk away.
She hired a sleep consultant who has told her that it's ok if bub cries and not to worry, I am not sure exactly what she meant by 'it's ok to let bub cry' whether that was 'a grizzle is ok' or 'a full blown CIO is ok'. Either way, she seems to be taking her advice.
I don't like to come across as judgemental and I don't want to hurt my friend but it seems like SHE is also struggling with it last time I visited she was saying how hoarse her baby's voice was because he was crying the night before
He's only 7 months old
Is there any info I can give her? Any tips in helping her bub to fall asleep without crying so much?