Hi, hope this is the right section.
DSD has been having tantrums a lot lately. At the moment it is only at her mother's house, but I want to be prepared in case it starts here.
My initial thought is to send her somewhere to calm down, and then talk through what upset her, why, and ways to deal with it in future.
As she hasn't had one with us, I have no idea if it will be effective. I have never had to deal with tantrums with older children.
I am also very aware that it may never be an issue in our house (like past things) but there's no harm in preparing, right?
We have had a few chats with her about appropriate behaviour, ways to deal with things, being respectful, etc, as she needs to know we do not accept what she is doing at her mums, and that we won't tolerate it.
I have a feeling that it is an issue at her mum's and not here, because she tends to lose her cool and shout, whereas we have rarely done that.
Her tantrums can be for the smallest things, or the biggest things.
I also want to point out that DSD has been spoiled all her life- she's the princess, her mum's favourite (and treated so), and has never taken no well. But she has always articulated her displeasure with us, and always huffed and stormed off with her mum, so I guess the tantrums have been building there. She does talk back a lot with us, but we are swift with enforcing consequences with that.
So, anyone have experience dealing with older (8+) children who have tantrums? Looking for advice on how to deal with it, if it comes up.