When done right it helps you to meet bubs needs before bub has a chance to get upset. My bub never cried for a feed and doesn't cry at sleep time. Sometimes he cries when he poops but that's another story and SOS wasn't designed to address it! So for me at least it was about meeting bubs needs.
It is terrible advice though I agree. But it is possible to still follow SOS and not take this advice if you're not comfortable with it. I think that's where the advice of take the bits you feel comfortable with / like and leave the rest.
I'm still reading through but my biggest advice is to just wait until your baby is here and find a book that suits your parenting style once you actually know what it is because you finally have that little person in your arms. I was a night nanny so was super strict with routines and had read many books, I had grand plans. Once that little nugget was in my arms it flew out the window. I still followed a routine but one that was much more baby and mom friendly. I really enjoyed Jo Ryan's Babybliss. Her routine is similar to Tizzie's time wise but her methods are a bit more laid back, she leaves a lot to you and kind of just gives you a guideline.
From what I can tell Tizzie's book has changed a lot from her first edition. My close friend followed it to the T with a baby the same age as DS and she definitely had sections that said to let a kettle boil before responding to the baby.
What harvs said as well about interpreting crying. There was a thread last year before you joined where a few members posted YouTube videos of babies crying/self soothing. The opinions from every member about how distressed the babies were varied GREATLY and I think that's one if the issues with Tizzie, she can say she's not advocating leaving to cry but it's really all up to interpretation.
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