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    Quote Originally Posted by HollyGolightly81 View Post
    Chill out. Giggle seemed to understand what she was saying. Sometimes comments are not meant to be awful or offensive or somebody on a high horse.
    I just have the OP in mind here, remember she's a first time mum who may get to 3 months and not know how to read her baby so I have an example that at 7 months I still don't know and that's ok.

    I'd hate for the OP to feel down in the dumps if she's not like big red v and can't understand what her baby needs.

    Sometimes too some of us can see that we are trying to help to OP, not just debate between ourselves.

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    Hi OP we have (successfully) implemented and use SOS for our first DD. I got to a point when she was about 7 months when I was desperate for sleep. Most of my friends had babies that slept through the night, day slept and well they just generally slept - unlike my child! It was stressful we have no family around, my hubby is away a lot, I was pregnant again and for me to be happy I need my sleep.

    It took 3 days and she slept through the night, her day sleeps improved and she was soooo much happier - so was I! My relationship with hubby was much better also. However I am not a strict user of SOS there are things I took and things I left. I tried Many other sleep methods (babylove, CC, Elizabeth pantley etc) nothing worked for my DD.

    We now have a new Bub (9 weeks) but I will not be starting her on SOS for a while. We have a night bedtime routine for her which works in with our eldest too but other than that I feel she is far too young for it and the pre solid routines are just too regimented for me at the moment.

    Happy to answer any other questions but I think tizzie hall has a lot of positive ideas, we have never been strict with everything (except bedding guide - because it works!) and it has still worked well for our family. My second is already such a different baby to my first and seems to already be in her own routine. Every Bub is different! Good luck

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    Quote Originally Posted by A-Squared View Post
    Here we go!!!

    Well good on you! My DS is almost 7 months and I still have no idea!

    Not everyone is as lucky or as perfect as you!
    Who said I was perfect? I already said in this thread that I have had relatively easy babies. Yes, I was lucky. At 3 months, all of mine were catnappers during the day but they were happy and they were sleeping through the night, or only waking once.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Giggle View Post
    It's ok I get what your saying and I understand how it can seem strange to some. I think I just lack confidence in my abilities that's all. Not saying I couldn't be a good parent without SOS but it just helped me is all.
    I wasn't saying you aren't a good parent. I like routine myself and am pretty strict with bedtime routine from birth (not time but events) and once down to 2 sleeps, I always made sure my babies were at home for the afternoon nap and when they were on one nap, I organise my day around that so my kids have their nap at home. Some of my friends think I am too rigid with that. Oh well.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rose&Aurelia View Post
    The only thing I'd like to advise the OP is that whilst SOS might suit some parents it doesn't mean they will suit all babies. If your bub has reflux, intolerances, is high needs or has an anxious personality SOS and any other 'training' methods will not suit.

    some kids just go from happy to screaming banshee (no protest cry), other kids are koala babies ( need constant carrying). None of us know how our babies will turn out till they are born. Then it will truly be trial and error till you and bub sort yourselves out.

    This doesn't mean that you are a bad mum nor that you have a difficult baby. It just means you might need to find another method of parenting that works for you and bub.

    I'm saying this from experience. I've got two and expecting my third. Whilst I'm a super dooper organised person that schedules every second of my day, parenting turned that upside down. My first was an easy baby as long as she was in my arms but has ended up a routine toddler/preschooler. My second is very laid back so I could put her down more often as a baby and is still laid back. I've got no idea what my third will be. I do know that a SOS schedule with a third won't work as I've got school and kindy drop offs to do.

    Additionally think about what you and your family do as a family. We do family dinners and sat night church every week so a strict schedule and only using the cot as a bed wouldn't have worked here.

    The PP have given some great suggestions. Baby love, sleeping like a baby and no cry sleep solutions are great to read. Dr Sears has good advice too.

    Lastly if you do decide to use SOS even hard core supporters will suggest you wait till 8-10wks to implement the method. The first few weeks is essential to establish bf and to enjoy your baby.
    Agree with this. Very well balanced and non judgemental advice. Except just want to clarify that SOS isn't about sleeping just in the cot. Babies are encouraged to learn to sleep in different places. When my second was younger he fell asleep right on time in the middle of a football match with thousands of people in the audience. One off night activities can be easily accommodated. Regular family night dinners and church - perhaps not.


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    Quote Originally Posted by HollyGolightly81 View Post
    Chill out. Giggle seemed to understand what she was saying. Sometimes comments are not meant to be awful or offensive or somebody on a high horse.
    You have to admit although accurate the post had a smidge of smugness with a dash of sarcasm thrown in. Well that's how I interpreted it. Doesn't mean I hate Big Res though

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    Quote Originally Posted by Busy-Bee View Post
    I totally get this, DH and I were the same. I had never changed a nappy and only held a baby for a total of about 10 minutes. I had this vision of one of us reading the instructions on how to change a nappy whilst the other person was trying to do it, baby's legs in the air saying "what's the next step?".

    If you want a practical book I found Baby Love to be full of useful information rather than a book that endorses a particular parenting approach.

    Best tips for first time mothers:
    - If you're planning on breastfeeding get prepared as for many women it is overwhelmingly difficult. In saying that, once established boobs are great when you're breastfeeding your baby as it solves just about all issues - feed to sleep, feed to feed, feed to comfort, feed if they are sick. Presto, content baby! (Exceptions may apply.) Best advice I got for establishing breastfeeding was to feed them at every squeak. Feeding lying down and bedsharing saved my sanity and got some sleep.

    - Keep visitors at arms length and make their visits short.

    - You will most likely be terrified when you bring baby home but adrenalin will kick in. Sleep deprivation happens when the adrenalin wears off.

    - Have ready meals prepared in the freezer and stuff to watch on DVDs so the nights don't get too lonely.

    - Ask any and all questions on here, don't worry if you think they are stupid. We've all been there. If anyone gets narky at you they are a twit and someone will point that out to them.



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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    You have to admit although accurate the post had a smidge of smugness with a dash of sarcasm thrown in. Well that's how I interpreted it. Doesn't mean I hate Big Res though
    That was not my intention.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    One off night activities can be easily accommodated. Regular family night dinners and church - perhaps not.

    Exactly. Our social circle of family and friends mean that our kids need to be adaptable. They need to be able to be ok to be woken for Xmas midnight mass, nights out at parties and functions, weekly evening church and lazy Sunday lunches. I've had several NYE parties with a baby in a carrier.

    If this is your life then any schedule based book is not for you. Pantley and McKay are more flexible with their methodologies.

    Having kids is heaps of fun. I've loved my parenting journey so far and am really looking forward to my next chapter.


    wifey of hubby who is always away. mother of two girls who are always amusing.

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    RandA can I ask what you would have done if your kids did need schedules and couldn't sleep anywhere due to being spirited kids or just far alert to sleep in their prams at noisy events etc?

    Genuine question as I know SOS doesn't work for every baby but I'm sure sleeping on the go or going to bed after 7 regularly also wouldn't work for all babies either.


 

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