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    Quote Originally Posted by kbf2plus2 View Post
    Sadly, Ally, my guess is that your friends just don't "get it". They probably think you should be over it. They want to go and have fun and not have to think about a baby lost.
    Unfortunately, for those of us who have lost a little one, we don't have that luxury. It is something that is with us always. We have to honour what is right for us and the memories of our babies. Anniversaries and birthdays are significant occasions. If your friends can't be bothered to remember; if they can't be bothered to be there to support you and your husband, then I don't believe they are very good friends and really aren't worth your time and energy.
    Sending peace and kindness to you and your husband as Angus' birthday approaches.
    Exactly this. Big hugs. I know how you feel.
    Happy birthday Angus xx
    Surround yourself around loving people sweetheart and dont even think about those people who cant be there for you and your husband. You really find out who your true friends are in the end.

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    Ally I'm really sorry that your friends were so thoughtless. I think of you and Angus often xx

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    Big hugs. Happy Birthday to Angus in heaven! You need your friends around you at this time, sounds like you could do without these people though. Stay strong!

    They seem mean and insensitive. Maybe they don't know how to be around you as his birthday draws closer, but still it's not very nice. xx

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    How disappointing and hurtful - i'm so sorry this has happened. Could you organise to do something special with just you and hubby, in memory? I'm guessing once they realise the significance, your friends will (or should) feel awful. I feel like people are becoming so self absorbed these days..... All the best for tomorrow xxxxx

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mod-Allymumtobe View Post
    It's like a group snapchat. Maybe she didn't think I'd catch on.
    Is she an idiot?

    Eta: I am assuming that she probably thought it'd delete before you saw it, that's how it works right? Reply 'those s'mores look yum' plus this 👎
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mod-Uniquey View Post
    Oh Ally, I don't understand how people can be so thoughtless (deliberately) , I am sorry you had to see that snap chat pic, especially when you're already feel down and vulnerable and panic attacks are no fun either.

    Your darling Angus shares his birthday with my dd, so I will have an extra candle for him tomorrow on her cake. Thinking of you hon.
    Tell your dd thank you for sharing her cake

    No idea what we will do. It's still kinda awkward think we will just send off a paper lantern tomorrow night at 4 minutes to midnight to mark his birth.


    I'm still amazed how it can feel like my heart is trying to beat while its torn and my lungs burning trying to breathe with bricks compressing my chest.

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    Oh Ally, huge hugs. Your friends are being awful, there is no excuse for their behaviour.

    Happy Birthday Angus, I hope you like Mummy and Daddy's lantern.

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    So sorry your friends are being a$$ hol3s.
    Happy birthday to your special baby Angus.

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    I'm sorry your 'friends' have acted this way. Wishing your beautiful Angus a happy birthday xx

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    Ally sorry to pry but do you have a special song for Angus?

    Music is so healing to me - I think I would want to have a song that I could play whenever I wanted to celebrate him or think about him and have a cry.

    Maybe that could be a way you and your hubby could connect over the grief you share? Sometimes music fills the gaps that words that can't x

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