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    Default Losing friendships through grief

    I might have been rude. My friends, a group that its base has been together since high school wanted to go camping. They wanted to go to a free unbookable location on easter when it's already been school holidays for a week with limited spots. I merely pointed out this and offered to find us a back up location as I didn't want to drive 2 hours to find no spots and drive home.

    Anyway the girl of the original idea couple gets af decides to call the whole thing off.

    Come Saturday night they are all snapchatting pics to their story or group of them making s'mores and having a bonfire. Fair enough except my husband had texted during the day asking if they'd liked to catch up etc.

    My husband has no other support. So I am furious in his behalf his pretty much only two friends where there.

    I'm lucky I have here and other friends who understand why this weekend we might not be much fun.

    It might be spiteful but I won't be posting about Angus' birthday till late tomorrow, I bet they don't even remember it's his birthday.

    Meanwhile I've been having panic attacks for days now. Even my husband is anxious. Where are our so called friends?

    Bored with our grief clearly.

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    Ally, I wish I had something to say. I wish I had words of some comfort.

    Thinking of you and DP and Angus. Sending you love and thoughts.

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    Big hugs Ally and happy birthday to Angus.

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    It's just so hard when I know I might be showing a lack of empathy but they totally pull something so mean at the worst time of year.

    I used to love easter. I love the egg hunt I couldn't wait for my own babies to do it with. Now easter will always be my last angus alive inside me memories followed so quickly by his birth and losing him

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    So they told you they decided to not go camping, and now you have found out they have gone without you? That's super uncool.

    I'm sorry they are being insensitive. I'm sorry they aren't able to offer you the comfort that you need. I'm sorry it feels like they have forgotten Angus.

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    I'm so very sorry.
    Your friends are unbelievably cruel.
    You could confront them - I'd want to send out mass rage - but if they're insensitive enough to tell you're they're not camping and then blatantly post pictures somewhere they know you'll see them, it doesn't sound like rage will achieve anything positive for you or hubby.
    And that's the most important thing here, only positive things for you.

    Ugh people can be d!cks

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    I am so sorry Ally

    You and your DH deserve so much better than this group of empty-headed, unfeeling sh*t stains.

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    Oh sweetheart, what a bunch of d!cks

    How inconsiderate and immature of them.

    I for one will be thinking of you, your DH and angel Angus tomorrow. Many of us will.

    I'm so sorry the people who are supposed to be your friends have let you down

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