Yesterday I had one of the regular check ups with the midwives at the hospital. I am 38 + 3 weeks today so not long to go. The midwife clinic at the hospital tries to provide continuity by giving you the same midwife for each appointment if you can keep the same time and day for each appointment. Yesterday it was a different middy and she just totally rubbed me and DP up the wrong way. Everything she said came out as a lecture like we were idiots and I didn't feel comfortable asking questions or sharing any information with her at all as she seemed to use anything I said as an opportunity to lecture.
She mentioned my iron (ferritin) was low (13) which came as a surprise as the last blood test I had was at my first hospital visit at the start of Feb and nothing has been mentioned about it till yesterday when I feel it is a bit late to build up much in the way of iron stores. She then spent the next 10 mins lecturing me about how I had to carefully plan my diet to include more iron and not drink when I eat and take supplements as well. Cut me off every time I told her that I have actually been craving red meat and eating more lately and I don't have much fluid when I eat cause it makes me feel yuck. For all her worry she didn't order any blood tests tho. I'll take the supplements but would have done so without the lecture.
Then she started lecturing us about DD who is 23 months old. Apparently now is a great time to completely re-arrange her sleep routine as I still feed her to sleep. She even tried to lecture DP when I was in the bathroom saying that she thinks DD will become jealous and violent. She did work in childcare see so she knows. DP cut off her rant with a calm "we work well as a team and we will work it out". She knew I work in childcare cause she asked but she is still more qualified to make this call about my child than I am apparently. Once again, a valid concern and suggestion delivered as law and lecture.
Ohh and after we ascertained that baby is head down she lectured me on how to sit so baby does not get stuck breech. Once again ignoring me when I said I hang over my gym ball on all fours regularly. Apparently after 10 mins in the car I am to pull over somewhere safe and run around the car twice. Totally practical advice with a tired cranky toddler in the back after a day of grocery shopping.
We ended this lovely visit with her instructing me to book my next appointment for 2 weeks with the doctor to discuss management if I go post dates. So no further chances to ask questions or discuss concerns.
I left feeling stressed, confused and worried that I would be lectured on how to birth if I get the wrong midwife in labour. I wish I could afford a homebirth like my first was. I feel awful cause I haven't enjoyed this pregnancy much and just want him out so I can be done with all this rubbish.