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    I'd find that weird and rude..
    It was already a generous offer to 'shout' dinner for your own birthday.

    In both mine and DH's families it can sometimes be a challenge to do split bills as both my dad and IL's always try to pay the entire bill, especially when it is for one of us.

    In our view while generous, in this day and age , is unnecessary.

    To alleviate this we often alternate who pays to save the hassle (ie they pay this time, we pay next)
    At all times though we take each other's lead - if the payee is ordering entree/main/dessert then it's acceptable to replicate. If it's just a main and drink the same etc.

    I have a DH who can at times be a ' big eater' but even he wouldn't eat that much food!
    Never have I been out in any social setting where someone has ordered two mains in addition to entree and dessert - that's just gluttony and completely unnecessary!

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    I think it's bad taste to let the birthday person pay for your dinner full stop. That being said if they compensated via coughing up a gift I would be ok with that.

    As for the two mains: Did they order for someone else? If I was100% sure they ordered 2 meals for themselves and they didn't pay for one, they would go on my $hit list.

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    If my FIL did that, I coulnt help but look at him in disgust and ask if he was serious - and saying Im not paying for 2. There is history though...

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    Could be greedy, could be rude, could be trying to inconvenience you. Whatever the case, it's not a normal thing to do.

    The polite thing for him to do would be to insist on paying for the additional main.
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    lol that is so weird, who does that? You were decent enough to pay for him for your own birthday. On the rare occasions someone has paid for my dinner I never order an entree or dessert and choose a sensibly priced main.

    I would have been

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    I have never ever been out where someone has ordered two mains. Has he ever done that before? It's clearly taking advantage. I would have been in shock and not said anything but if the situation ever comes up again make sure you have a response that lets him know that's not ok. Something like "hey I'm not made of money, any second meals you pay for yourself".

    Do they struggle for money?

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    That's just plain rude regardless of being family or not! I would never even think to have 2 mains especially at someone else's expense!
    I remember one of my daughters christenings, we went to a surf club afterwards where a friend and both my in laws ordered up $50+ meals whilst everyone else did the normal $20-$25 meal. It was only an early lunch but cost me a fortune, didn't do that for the next christening.

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    I tend to order from the cheapest things on the menu if someone else is paying. Two meals is so gross, especially with entree and dessert! Even when my folks treat the family to lunch, I try to slip them some money. Sorry you were taken advantage of like that.

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    How rude! I have never heard of someone ordering 2 main meals!

    And I can't believe he let you pay for him and yourself on YOUR birthday!

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    Do you think he was trying to make a point about something or p!ss you off on purpose? It just seems so bizarre that someone would be so rude and not realise it/ have any ill intent

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