During all of my teacher training I was told that research has shown that no matter how much training you do, when it comes to it and the chips are down, then you will default to teaching the way that you were taught anyway.
So...do you think this is true of parenting? Do we default to the parenting we received when we aren't consciously 'parenting' iykwim?
I was reflecting on this the other day - the way I use food as 'treats' when I need a win (and feel guilty for it all the time that I do) is just like my mother. And I swore to myself I wouldn't do that. But it's like it's in me.
My need to dress DS nicely (and often beyond my financial means), the fact I buy him a 'little present' often when I'm out, or else it takes a lot of self talk not to, are both totally my mum as well.
There are 'big things' that I really want to do differently, such as instil specific values etc, and I've put a lot of thought into how I'd like to achieve that. It's like the little things took me surprise though!
So...is this true of you? Do you default to the parenting you experienced? Do you actively avoid doing that? Is it something you worry about at all?