Hi. My 5 yr old daughter had just found a new friend whom is 8yo girl. They went to the park last weekend and my first uncomfortable feeling came about when she seems to always wanting to carry her despite my girl shouting no several times. They ended it up with laughters but i still have an uneasy feeling about it. To me, personally I had always taught my girl that "no means no" with reasons.
Both girls had been going back and forth to each other houses for couple of days until few days ago they started to play more in our home. Yesterday, they were playing upstairs, I heard my daughter shouting a few times then most times were laughters and soon after, when her friend's Mum came over to pick her daughter up (as they were going out for an appointment), I called up from downstairs but no one answered.
I went up and saw my clothes from the wardrobe was all over the landing. And went into my daughters room and saw both girls on the bed with my daughter in tears and her friend has a guilty look on her face. I told her friend that her mom is waiting downstairs (not wanting them to be late for her appointment) and went to my daughter, asking her what had happened.
My 5 yo bursts into tears detailing how her friend had carried her and left her to balance on the bed rail few times, she fell few times on the bed thankfully but her both legs hurt. She has asked her friend to stop but she continued on carrying her (my child is petite, her friend can be easily double her size). There was also an incident where her friend had carried her onto the shelves in our wardrobe and closed the door on her. Friend also had pulled her arm too tight it hurt her elbow. She was also stopped from going downstairs to get water from me. I asked why she did not call me as i was just downstairs, she said "i'm afraid you wouldn't be able to hear me, the door is closed"
I let my girl make the decision and she decided not to play with this girl anymore. Today, as her friend arrived at our door, my girl got excited, forgot abt yesterday's drama and welcomed her in to play again.
I had a word with her friend, "If Mia says no and she doesnt like what you're doing to her, you have to listen to her and stop. Same rule goes to mia. And she was hurting yesterday so you both must play a little more gentle. Mia is still very young."
Unfortunately today my girl whom had her front baby tooth wobbly a little, had lost it. The 8 yo charmingly came down with Mia and said "We have some exciting news! Mia lost her tooth!" I looked at Mia she had a scared look on her and glassy-eyed. I asked Mia what happened, as she was trying to explain, her friend cuts her off and said "she lost it while drinking water!"
I had a bad feeling. Pulled my girl to the side and asked her again. She said her friend had pushed her wobbly tooth in and it came off. There was a piece of flesh hanging instead of a gaping hole where the tooth came off. I went over to my neighbour wanting to tell her abt it and maybe its not a good idea for them to continue playing. Maybe we should wait until mine is a bit older, but she was in the shower.
I took my girl to the hospital just to make sure everything is fine and if all the tooth is out. They cleared her and everything is fine.
Now, am I being paranoid and over reacting here? She's my only child I'm not sure about this. Or how am I to go about telling my neighbor abt it. How would you have handled this?