We are in the process of pulling him out. He is not presently attending class but administratively we are going through the process. Although I was led to believe he would be in a special ed programme, he was placed in a mainstream class. I was then assured that he'd have one on one with a special needs teacher aide. I made daily inquiries as to his progress via his class teacher and the aide and was always told that he was doing great.
I have only just found out via a concerned teacher not in his class who called me at home that he has been suffering. He's been in mainstream and not in his area as I was led to believe and during play time and eating time he's been in the midst of a very busy junior school population: very confusing and distressing for him. And the thought of this just makes me sick with grief. All this time I was being told things were fine, that he was eating with a few other kids in a private area, that he's been doing great and I've been really watching him for signs otherwise but nothing has jumped out at me.
Now I've been told that due to a staffing shortage he's been in mainstream for a few weeks but the concerned teacher had advised me that it was distressing to watch him try to cope. I'm beyond livid I'm just feeling hopeless right now but am writing this so in case anyone in a similar situation reads this then they'll know that schools will whitewash anything and to trust your gut and dig further. Like I should have done.
Not sure where this schooling road is going but we're actively investigating other options. Any suggestions would be gratefully accepted. I am in Qld but am seriously contemplating a move back to SA for this reason (as well as NDIS which is a separate issue not related to this). Thanks.