Though I still often need to kick him out of bed if I've been up with a sick kid and need a sleep (though more often than not, we both get up now). And if he doesn't? I don't try and be quiet anymore. The more noise the better.
When things are calmer, ask him if he really thinks it's fair that you've had x hours sleep compared to his x hours. Whether you work or are a SAHP, sleep is important to everyone. xx
My hubby is great but after 20 + years and 6 kids he still needs reminding some days.
Convo the other day
Dh - but I take the kids to school 3 days a week to help you.
Me - no you take then because you are their parent and it's your job.
Dh - yeah I hadn't thought of it that way because you have always done it kind of felt like I was doing to help you but your right it is just part of being their parent.
So many times this year I've had to pull dh up for saying he "works all day"...great...so what am I doing then when I study, work part time, look after ds and manage the household? Not to mention have done the "nightshift" with ds for 1.5 years.
It's the age old argument Adorned. I'm a SAHM, and we mainly have it when I'm sick. DH isn't perfect, but is a lot better than some husbands I've read about on here, but I always feel really let down by him when I'm out for the count.
If he's sick, he gets to rest, moan etc. If I'm sick? I just have to suck it up because apart from getting takeaway, he doesn't do anything to help. I've been sick this time for weeks and it's taken him a month to pull his finger out and help with the dishes, food etc as I just can't do it. I spent the first month actually hating him for not helping. He even came home early and started late a few times, but did he help? Nope. Take our DS to school? Nope. In some ways it's too little too late, but I do appreciate him doing 20 mins of cleaning up to help me and hopefully he might have finally realised that that 20 mins make an enormous difference to how I feel about him and how quickly I recover!
But yes, the whole "I'm more tired than you because I work" thing is bull$hit. I've worked all my life. Often doing 9-10 hour days. Raising these kids is the hardest job I've ever had and I'm tired too you know! And at least he gets to go to the loo, shower, eat etc all by himself. I rarely do. Don't get me wrong, I love my kids, but they are exhausting! I can't wait for the youngest to start kindy. I'll suddenly have 30 hours a fortnight ALL TO MYSELF!!!!!! Woohooo!!
I did mention the sleep to him and he said he didn't have as much as I think. Yet I I could hear him snoring away. He just doesn't seem to think I need sleep too and I do actually do a lot. I made him get up to DS last night even though I was awake. Just pretended to be asleep. Sort of a pay back lol
It's supposed to be 30 degrees today and I have hairy legs!
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