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    Default I need some kind words of advice and care

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    Hey there, good on you for sharing. It sounds like what you experienced was quite traumatic, especially coming out of the blue and from people you trusted who had you under their roof.

    Events can be particularly traumatic when:
    You're unprepared for it; you felt powerless to prevent it or someone was intentionally cruel.

    Do you still see this man? That certainly won't be helping and neither will be your husband not recognising or validating how you are feeling.

    What was the context of the yelling? Was it completely out of the blue?

    I'd think that some counselling would be a great step, it's not being a drama queen to recognise how something affects you and seek help for it, that's being smart.

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    Huge hugs. I am so sorry this has happened to you. Your fil sounds like a jerk and his behaviour was appalling! The way he added "I hope this affects you for a long time" makes me think his attack was cold and calculated.
    I agree with the pp that some counselling would be a good place to start. Maybe after a few sessions you could even ask your dp to go with you to see if you can get him to understand how the experience has affected you?

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    I couldn't read and run.
    Your FIL is a disgusting man! How dare he treat you like that.
    I agree that counselling could be a great starting point to help you move forward.
    Are you still living there?

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    You need to realise that you aren't worthless, at all. I would cut this man out of my and bubs life. It sounds like your partner doesn't have your back in this situation (and says you are drama queen??). That isn't cool at all. Don't let the walk over you and treat you like this.

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    I am so sorry this happened to you. I have to go to work but wanted to give you a hug & let you know ill be back to post this afternoon x

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    That is really unprofessional for a doctor to say you are a drama queen. Did they run any tests and help you with your anaemia?

    As for your FIL, he is an awful man. Do you still live with him? I wouldn't be anywhere near him personally and wouldn't stand being yelled at longer than a few minutes before walking out. Counseling will help you with your self worth and also having people around who support you instead of push you down.

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    hi lovingmummy123. wow. what a terrible person. I hope you don't have to see him or spend any time with your fil ever again. to be ranting and raving on at you four hours,!! what a crazy person. you surely didn't deserve that, and you are worthy of respect and concern, not that sort of treatment. I suggest you should go to a gp and make sure your iron levels and whatever are all ok. and then perhaps seek a counsellor to help you deal with this traumatic expierence.
    your partner should be on your side, and not saying you are a 'drama queen' or whatever. I hope you can find a way to deal with this, and move past it all. your little girl deserves to have a happy mum, and a family that works together. hugs, marie.

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    Quote Originally Posted by beebs View Post
    You need to realise that you aren't worthless, at all. I would cut this man out of my and bubs life. It sounds like your partner doesn't have your back in this situation (and says you are drama queen??). That isn't cool at all. Don't let the walk over you and treat you like this.



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