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    Default What's the etiquette? WWYD?

    Interested to hear your thoughts on this.

    When we first moved over to London when I was pregnant we lived in a different area and then moved to our current area (fairly far from original place) when DS was about 4 1/2 months.

    While living in our first place I saw a specific GP a few times. A couple times while pregnant and then I had our 6 week check up with DS with her. She was pregnant at the time, I think about 3 months behind me. That 6 week check was the last time I saw her because she went on mat leave and then we moved.

    Fast forward to the end of last year and this year and I've run into her in my neighborhood a few times! The first time I just walked past her and couldn't figure out how I knew her, kind of like when you see a famous person and you think you know them but can't place how. Then I saw her in our local playground and we chatted as we both figured out how we knew each other, she recently moved just around the corner from me. Since then I have seen her quite a bit since we live in the same neighborhood and have similar aged babies. I see her at the park, playground, drop-in playgroups/music classes/library story time etc. We will smile at each other and say hi but that's it.

    What's the etiquette with this? Are we not meant to really chat because I saw her professionally a few times? I'm finding it a bit awkward not talking to her much when we have baby boys that are close in age, we ourselves are similar ages and we are always at the same activities. Our little neighborhood is actually quite the community even though we're in a huge city. We have a mum FB page just for our immediate streets and have all kind of gotten to know each other through that, people arranging holiday parties for all the kids, loaning things to each other etc. I just chatted for an hour at the playground with another mum because we had figured out who we were from the FB page so it felt like we already knew each other. I'm fairly certain this GP is on this page as well.

    So what would you do? Is she meant to keep her distance because she knows a few 'private' things about me? I don't care, it's stuff I'm not secretive about anyways (my depression, loosing our daughter, etc). It's not like she's seen my bits or knows I grow hair in odd places 😳.
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    Hmm...as it seems your professional relationship with her has ended (I assume you see a different GP now), I would say just act like you are any other mums hanging in the park. I think it would be awkward if you still saw her as your GP but seeing as you are not, and its been some time, I see no problems with the friendship.

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    I think it's fine to be friends now.
    But I also think that you shouldn't see her as your GP again if you choose the friend option. I think it could get uncomfortable and slightly boundary crossing if you do.

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    I want to live in your neighbourhood, that sounds lovely!!

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    That's what I thought, but I'm unsure if I'm getting a vibe from her that she's not keen to chat, or maybe she thinks that about me???

    Definitely not seeing her professionally since with the NHS you have to register with a GP in your area, so I'm not even at the same clinic that she worked in. I assume GPs here probably don't work at clinics in their area as well. But regardless she's not even working right now.

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    Maybe she just doesn't like me 😳

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlissedOut View Post
    I want to live in your neighbourhood, that sounds lovely!!
    It is really great! Big props to the mum that organized it all! It sprouted off of the FB mum buy/sell/give for our postcode and is closed just to the mums in our immediate area. It's really turned our little neighborhood in a big city into a bit of a village community.

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    I would try and make friends with her!

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    Invite her for a coffee or playdate next time you see her, exchange numbers and call/text with a cpuple of options for dates. Or give her yours and wait for a call/text. You will know if she is not interested by her response or lack of. Good luck making friends can be hard!

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    Quote Originally Posted by KitiK View Post
    Invite her for a coffee or playdate next time you see her, exchange numbers and call/text with a cpuple of options for dates. Or give her yours and wait for a call/text. You will know if she is not interested by her response or lack of. Good luck making friends can be hard!
    Haha! It's like dating! 😖

    I don't really mind if we're not 'friends' it's more just the avoiding properly chatting when we see each other that I find awkward. Ya know?

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