Anyone else torn on whether and when to start a family?
DH and I have been wrestling with the idea for a while now, and after a bit of an accident where we thought I was pregnant (turned out not to be) we thought it was what we really wanted. We really want a baby and we want to start a family in our 20s, but at the same time I feel like we are very young and I can't help but be influenced by the very general message that society and culture exudes that says that people should travel, explore and wait to have children, and that anyone under 30 with kids is a crazy anomaly! (I know I'm generalising here but this is then message I get from the plethora of online articles etc from regretful parents...)
I've been with my DH for 9 years, married for 1.5. This is my fifth year as a teacher on a good salary, and DH has been in his job for almost 10 years - very stable. We own a house, and are ahead by $15,000 on our repayments! The only thing we haven't done is travelled. Well, in my mid-twenties I spent a year backpacking Australia (alone) and we spent 6 months in New Zealand together before we were married but that's the furthest we've been! We wanted to explore our own country first. We had to stop after 1.5 years of traveling because we were running out of money and both wanted to settle down, get jobs and buy a house (plus we were homesick!)
If we did have a baby now, would we be full of regret that we didn't travel and explore the world (as romantically and bohemic as people make it out to be) beforehand? Or would we regret that we waited to start trying? Would we be crazy for TTC so young? Would we feel crazy?
What are your thoughts? I guess I'm not directly asking for advice but just curious as to whether other people feel this. I always think about how badly I would love to have a baby but then think "No, we are too young, we haven't travelled..." But then think - who is telling me this is what you are meant to do?!
ETA: We are 27