Sorry that title bit strange, but just following on from my other thread about chores it occurs to me that what I struggle most with is the feeling that my family - DP, DD1 age 8, DS age 5 and of course DD2 age 9months just see me as mum/housekeeper. I'm happy to be all and everything to my 9 month old but how do I get DP and my older kids to start seeing me a person again? I feel so overwhelmed by everything that needs to be done to keep everyone fed, in clean clothes, off to school on time with lunch etc... and all I get from kids is complaints about dinner being gross, tantrums if I ask them to do ANYTHING in this house. I LOVE LOVE my kids, but I HATE HATE them just seeing me as the one who picks up after them. Is this a weird way to feel? Can I really expect kids to appreciate all I do for them? Probably not?
How do you think your family sees your role? Are/would you be happy to be regarded as just the mum who buzzes around making sure everyone else is happy?