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    I do everything. Dp will start cleaning his man cave but gets distracted by minecraft. The system is definitely flawed

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    Quote Originally Posted by SoThisIsLove View Post
    I do everything pretty much as im a sahm...he does the bins, helps with the kids, will do the dishes if I ask snd occasionally cooks but other than that I do it all. I personally dont think its fair that he should help out 50/50 when home. He is up at 5am and doesnt get home till 5pm. Im not up till 7:30 most days, can nap when dd2 naps if I want, watch a movie, sit down and have a cuppa virtually whenever I want. I can and do meet friends for lunch etc. He doesn't have that luxury and works in a stressful, high demand job. I dont see why he should come home and do housework. My opinion only of course.
    I don't see a problem with this as long as both people in the relationship are happy.

    I also think it would be unfair for my husband to come home from his very physically demanding job and do housework. But we have a rule that as long as the kitchen/dining area is clean and the kids are asleep that neither of us do chores in the evenings. We hang out together, relax, watch tv, do exercise etc. but no housework.
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    My DP cooks everynight, washes up, feeds the animals, cleans DDs bottles and does the lawns.
    I clean bathroom, do washing, sweep and mop floors and do the general tidy up. Also in charge of bills.
    We take turns in cleaning up the cats room. And groceries we do together.
    I ***** at him but realistically its pretty even and if DD is having a nightmarish day he helps me catch up when he gets home.

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    We don't have any kind of list or anything.

    When I'm home with the 3 children (Sahm) I just do what I can. When DH comes home he helps out too so I guess its 50/50.

    The only thing I always seem to always do is washing because DH hates doing it. He always does the showers because I hate cleaning showers!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by SoThisIsLove View Post
    I do everything pretty much as im a sahm...he does the bins, helps with the kids, will do the dishes if I ask snd occasionally cooks but other than that I do it all. I personally dont think its fair that he should help out 50/50 when home. He is up at 5am and doesnt get home till 5pm. Im not up till 7:30 most days, can nap when dd2 naps if I want, watch a movie, sit down and have a cuppa virtually whenever I want. I can and do meet friends for lunch etc. He doesn't have that luxury and works in a stressful, high demand job. I dont see why he should come home and do housework. My opinion only of course.
    I think this logic got me into the mess I'm in as with 1 baby I got up at 8, threw on the odd bit of washing and mostly relaxed with bub. Even with 2 non school kids things were ok small house and no school timetables /lunches etc. so dp got used to me doing everything. Now I'm up with baby 6.30/7. I can't get up before her and she's in our bed and would wake. I go nonstop all day, my 'breaks' are occasional coffees with other mums but it's not a break with wriggling crawling baby... School picks up, homework, after school snacks, dinner, baths, etc... He gets home to do stories most nights, tidies up after dinner if I'm with baby but then gets to relax while I finish off clearing up and usually fold washing or these days things so hectic I am doing laundry at night. I'm starting to envy his train ride to work as he gets to read!! Even coming to bubhub puts me behind :-(

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    We do whatever needs doing... so I was a SAHM with a young baby, I did whatever I could manage during the day and the rest got split between us (or he'd take over baby stuff while I did whatever housework needed doing).

    When we had a more manageable baby/toddler and I was a SAHM or barely worked, I did most dinners, all shopping, kid-stuff during the day, tidying/housework during the day and it was all shared in evenings/weekends.

    At the moment, I work 2-3 shifts of 8.5-16 hours a week (he runs his own business from home, and works a couple of days a week at a friend's house). It's pretty fluid... when he's working, I have DD and do what NEEDS to be done round the house, otherwise spend time with DD. When I'm working, he does the same. The rest gets split between us, whenever it needs to be done.

    There are a few things that tend not to get shared (I do the shopping, he does 90% of washing up, he pays bills, I organise DD's room/childcare bag etc.). Otherwise we do what needs done, as it needs doing so that neither of us gets too stressed.

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    Oh, I do all the school stuff too.
    I work at the school, so if I have a morning shift I "can drop them as it's easy", or an afternoon shift I "can collect them as it's easy".
    If I have a morning off I "can collect them because [I'm] not working", same for afternoon.

    I lost it yesterday. If I'm working it's my responsibility because I'm there (that makes sense to me, and I'm ok with it, unless the kids have activities, as I can't leave work to take them). If I'm not working, it's my responsibility too, because I work there? No, DH, no. Pick one.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SoThisIsLove View Post
    I do everything pretty much as im a sahm...he does the bins, helps with the kids, will do the dishes if I ask snd occasionally cooks but other than that I do it all. I personally dont think its fair that he should help out 50/50 when home. He is up at 5am and doesnt get home till 5pm. Im not up till 7:30 most days, can nap when dd2 naps if I want, watch a movie, sit down and have a cuppa virtually whenever I want. I can and do meet friends for lunch etc. He doesn't have that luxury and works in a stressful, high demand job. I dont see why he should come home and do housework. My opinion only of course.
    i'm glad that works for you two.

    But what about "us people", where both work similar hours and have similar stresses? Shouldn't housework be as close to 50/50?

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    He is very lazy and it got to the point I had to draw up a timetable of sorts on a whiteboard.
    It's all broken up over the week (vacuuming, cleaning bathrooms and laundry - me). His daily chores are dishes and taking the bins out. There's not much yard maintenance once every 3 months DF trims the bushes and cuts the weeds but other than that that's all he has to do. I'm a SAHM and DF works full time although we are lucky enough to have him home by 4 most days. I will be returning to work (part time) in a couple weeks so interesting to see how that works out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Qrazelna View Post
    He is very lazy and it got to the point I had to draw up a timetable of sorts on a whiteboard.
    It's all broken up over the week (vacuuming, cleaning bathrooms and laundry - me). His daily chores are dishes and taking the bins out. There's not much yard maintenance once every 3 months DF trims the bushes and cuts the weeds but other than that that's all he has to do. I'm a SAHM and DF works full time although we are lucky enough to have him home by 4 most days. I will be returning to work (part time) in a couple weeks so interesting to see how that works out.
    I don't think my dp is lazy as such just oblivious. He's used to me doing everything so just does obvious stuff like tidying up after dinner or shopping when there is no food at the weekend. I feel like we need a chore list or something to spur him into action. I think what really irritates me too is that he switches off when I talk house work, gets that glazed not important look on his face - but it is important if you're stuck in messy house all day and know kids will go hungry if you don't shop and cook! I am being super stubborn too though not wanting to ask him to help cus it annoys me that it sounds like I need help with MY chores cus they're not mine this is OUR house and kids! Grrr
    Feels good to feel mad rather than sad 😀

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