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    Default How do i say goodbye to my dog?

    About a month ago i rushed my 9yo terrier to the vet gasping for air. Turns out she has congestive heart failure. Given about 6 months to live, give or take.

    Well, she is getting worse every day. She has collapsed twice in a month, barely gets off her bed and doent eat dinner every night. We have medications for her but apart from it being hard to given them to her, they are expensive. One day of missing meds and she is coughing and spluttering and gasping for air again.

    We have had her longer than our oldest daughter and i cant even imagine making the choice to have her put to sleep. I just keep saying, shes ok...cause some days she is.

    It just came as a huge shock, i expected her to live for some much longer. I was always told the smaller the dog the longer they life...turns out thats true except VERY small dogs and shes very small. 3kgs.

    How do i make that choice??

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    I'm sorry to hear this, it's something I haven't had to face this yet but my dog is 9 too and is showing the signs of age these days. A website you might find useful is this: http://dogtime.com/when-to-say-good-bye.html it has some questions which might help you a bit. Anoterh website is this one http://www.bluecross.org.uk/1958-277...y-goodbye.html which also could help.

    The decision is a very hard one to make. Perhaps another visit to your vet to have a discussion on what you could expect with both scenarios could help.

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    Oh I'm so sorry you have to go through this

    I suppose you need to look at quality of life for her? Do you think she is suffering? If yes, I think you know your answer... As tough as it is

    I had to weigh up options with my pup a while back and it is not easy!

    Big hugs xx

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    I'm so sorry you are going through this. Pets are family ❤️

    The way I look at it with my pets is when they are in pain it's time. My youngest (a german shepherd so quite different) has leg problems, she's ok at the moment but we know that when we can see that pain is getting to her, it's time.

    It's the hardest decision.

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    Hugs. I am not far off the same decision with my gorgeous little lady. My vet said the right time is when they are not happy and I'll know if she isn't happy. I think it is a good way to look at it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by loislane2010 View Post

    It just came as a huge shock, i expected her to live for some much longer. I was always told the smaller the dog the longer they life...turns out thats true except VERY small dogs and shes very small. 3kgs.

    How do i make that choice??
    😓 i never knew that.

    Ive had to make this choice for my cat. In the end i did what was best for her not me. I wont lie it hurts, it sucks and its downright horrid. I held off till Misty "told" me she was ready and thats when i let her go.
    Im sorry you have to make this decision xx

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    I'm so sad for you and your tiny girl If it comes to it, try and keep in mind a company like Pets in Peace (Idk where you are located I'm in bris). They were kind and supportive and have options when a pet passes like memorial plaques and photo frames. Something that massively helped me when we had to let our dog go was thinking about all the humans I have nursed suffering or in pain till the end and not a thing I could do to help. I was grateful to be able to say goodbye to our dog before his pain was too bad. It is heartbreaking but ultimately I felt comfort in that we could let him go peace if that makes sense. Best wishes xx

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    Quote Originally Posted by acerbaby View Post
    Hugs. I am not far off the same decision with my gorgeous little lady. My vet said the right time is when they are not happy and I'll know if she isn't happy. I think it is a good way to look at it.
    This is exactly what I tell my clients. It's all about quality of life. I've had some people with animals that had treatable conditions that decided the treatment was just too stressful for the animals (daily injections etc) and that they wouldn't treat but let the animal go earlier because it was nicer for the animal.

    It is a horrible decision to have to make, big hugs for you.


 

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