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    Quote Originally Posted by Janesmum123 View Post
    I come from the opinion that a man has a responsibility to provide for his family especially if he creates a child. I would have little respect for a man that didn't work for years and expected his wife to live with his parents because he can't get off his behind.
    I believe it is both mother's and father's responsibility to provide for the child as they both ​created it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Best Things View Post
    I believe it is both mother's and father's responsibility to provide for the child as they both ​created it.
    It is but working full time when you have mental health issues can be difficult. OP has a lot going on. Its not easy juggling full time work, a small child, study when you are in a difficult place mentally. And as her husband he should make sure his family is being looked after when he can see his wife is unwell.

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    Who said the OP has mental issues? :what:

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    He definitely should. But IMO if your partner isn't supporting you and your child, then you're going to have to support yourself. There's no point pointing out what her slack DH is doing. She can't make him do anything. She is however the master of her own life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by heplusme View Post
    Who said the OP has mental issues? :what:
    Sorry didn't mean to thank.


    The op did. She spend time in mental health ward (mothers and baby ward )

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    It frustrates me to see well meaning and logical advice being completely ignored over and over in this thread. Save your breath girls it's falling on deaf ears. Sorry if that comes across mean, but I find it quite rude that so many are putting in time and effort to reply to this thread with good advice and not one is even acknowledged by the OP. I actually find the progression of this thread quite odd, like the OP isn't even reading anything.

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    It frustrates me to see well meaning and logical advice being completely ignored over and over in this thread. Save your breath girls it's falling on deaf ears. Sorry if that comes across mean, but I find it quite rude that so many are putting in time and effort to reply to this thread with good advice and not one is even acknowledged by the OP. I actually find the progression of this thread quite odd, like the OP isn't even reading anything.
    I'm with this. Maybe MIL isn't that great. So move. And yes, it is that simple. Not easy. But simple.

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    I agree Delirium, lots of good threads with genuine purpose die off but this one has a life of it's own. Maybe because it's just soooooo frustrasting, people keep checking in to see whether anything is getting through. OP, why do you not acknowledge or thank all the people who are giving you great advice over and over?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Janesmum123 View Post
    It is but working full time when you have mental health issues can be difficult. OP has a lot going on. Its not easy juggling full time work, a small child, study when you are in a difficult place mentally. And as her husband he should make sure his family is being looked after when he can see his wife is unwell.
    There is so much we don't know about this situation as the information is trickling in drinks and drabs. Don't be so quick to assume the husband is the bludger. Maybe he has his own issues - living with a spouse with mental illness and your mother couldn't be easy. Maybe the OP could get a job but hasn't. I would bet we aren't getting the full story. It takes two to tango.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    There is so much we don't know about this situation as the information is trickling in drinks and drabs. Don't be so quick to assume the husband is the bludger. Maybe he has his own issues - living with a spouse with mental illness and your mother couldn't be easy. Maybe the OP could get a job but hasn't. I would bet we aren't getting the full story. It takes two to tango.
    My bet is we are getting the tiniest peek into her world.

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