OP. The advice you've mainly been given is to move out. You say your partner can't get work in his chosen field. Mine would be scrubbing mall toilets rather than have his pg wife in this kind of dynamic day in day out.
Get a bed sitter short term if you need to. Deliver junk mail. With respect you seem to have a sense of entitlement that you should be able to live there until your partner gets his dream job. Move out!!
If I was in that situation I would take off in the car and sleep in there instead. A caravan park, a tent, anything.....then maybe go to an emergency housing place and see of they can find you a cheap bedsit or something
Are you working at all? Or looking for work? What's your long term plan? Can your DH look for additional work or retrain? This situation is just not going to change without action from either one of you.
It's only going to get worse when you baby becomes a toddler
Eta: changes made re read some posts
Last edited by Little Miss Sunshine; 30-03-2015 at 13:26.
We still have weeks move out. Constant arguing about me getting a job. But im struggling with my study load. And won't get paid much. I'm seriously struggling with keeping my mouth shut, when everyone is allowed to say rude things to me
What do you mean by "We still have weeks move out"?
Does it mean you applied for somewhere to move to, been approved and have another couple of weeks until it's available to move into?
Or, does it mean that you've asked Centrelink, Public Housing, Charities etc and it will take them weeks to let you know if they have anything?
I'm sorry but I'm just not sure what you mean.
Getting paid even a little, is more then your getting paid when your not working at all & if that means your going to be a bit more independently financial and be able to move out more comfortably then I think that's a positive (well in my eyes it is)
Especially since you obviously don't want to live with your Inlaws and are complaining about the way they treat you and their rules etc.
So if I were you and felt the way you did I would be getting myself and my Dh out into jobs even if they weren't "my field of choice" part time or full time whatever I could.
What are you studying? Could you put off study until you had your own place and had worked for a bit?
You seem fixated on them and what they are doing wrong, how everything is their fault. You have a baby coming, you need to be a grown up and start concentrating on what you can and are doing to change this situation. It seems you want to continue to live with the in-laws inevitably, but on your terms. The world just doesn't work that way. You either need to accept how they run their household, or move out. You can't expect to be living with them, paying little to nothing, bringing a baby into the mix and expect to call the shots.
I'm trying to word this politely, but you seem entitled and quite young. Move in with other family, go to a caravan park short term, shelf your studies for one semester and get a job. There are options. You just don't seem to want to do any of them.
Pregnant for the first-time?
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