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    IMO the Op doesn't want to do anything about her situation. It sounds like a teenage vent to me. Even the title "my inlaws are difficult to live with" doesn't suggest anything more than a vent.

    It could have been "wanting to move away from inlaws" and therefore people offering advice on what to do in order to make that happen but instead it's more about highlighting how horrible life is being stuck in that position.

    I say let the kid vent but if it's frustrating offering advice then don't. I have no advice to the OP (don't feel like she wants it anyway) but thought I could help some people who are clearly frustrated by the thread. You all mean well which is nice though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TortoiseNotTheHare View Post
    IMO the Op doesn't want to do anything about her situation. It sounds like a teenage vent to me. Even the title "my inlaws are difficult to live with" doesn't suggest anything more than a vent.

    It could have been "wanting to move away from inlaws" and therefore people offering advice on what to do in order to make that happen but instead it's more about highlighting how horrible life is being stuck in that position.

    I say let the kid vent but if it's frustrating offering advice then don't. I have no advice to the OP (don't feel like she wants it anyway) but thought I could help some people who are clearly frustrated by the thread. You all mean well which is nice though.
    Shes not a kid, she would be 28 going from previous threads.

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    Fair enough. But I think that argument goes both ways. People are allowed to reply how they see fit too, as long as it's within the rules. I'm certainly not 'feeding my beast' nor am I selfish. Ironically it's the OP that isn't being 'fed' thus why she refuses to even acknowledge anyone. I'm not saying she can't post. I'm just giving my opinion like you are.
    Well said delirium

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    Thanks for the hostility but we did move out about 6 months ago. But my in laws are still trying to control everything. Because my husband is working afternoons/ nights, they're using this an excuse that I shouldn't have my daughter alone.
    They always come up with some sort of an excuse. I've been going to counseling at my uni, and now I'm being sent around in circles again.

    Because my husband isn't here when they're off work, I'm left to deal with them alone. The 3 of them- my mother, father and sister in law, all have NO BOUNDARIES. And always ignore the word "NO". Now they've come up with another lie that I'm teaching my daughter to call them swear words. Which is completely RIDICULOUS.

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    hi meccamega. if these family members are interfering in your life, even though you are no longer living with them, can you just not open the door to them. not answer their phone calls. ?? if they are harassing you and you don't want to deal with them, you are entitled to call the police. take out some court orders if you need to. maybe you need to move further away. marie.

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    Yep I'd be refusing to open the door and calling police if they don't leave.
    If they are on your property and refusing to leave at your request isn't that trespassing.

    My fil is violent and has bashed mil and bil before so i refuse to be around him ever without dh present, especially now with our kids in the picture.

    Your inlaws sound like they have mental problens, I'd move far far away

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    Yeah I wouldn't answer the door. Or I would make myself scarce when I knew they were coming. Plus I'd expect hubby to tell his family to back off!

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    Yep, tell your husband to grow a set and to tell them to back off. Just because they are his family, you don't have to have anything to do with them. Move interstate lol.

    I haven't spoken to my father in ten years because he is a drunk and an arsshole. Just remove yourself from the situation. Lock your doors if you think they will come over and hassle you. Ignore them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Meccamega View Post
    Thanks for the hostility but we did move out about 6 months ago. But my in laws are still trying to control everything. Because my husband is working afternoons/ nights, they're using this an excuse that I shouldn't have my daughter alone.
    They always come up with some sort of an excuse. I've been going to counseling at my uni, and now I'm being sent around in circles again.

    Because my husband isn't here when they're off work, I'm left to deal with them alone. The 3 of them- my mother, father and sister in law, all have NO BOUNDARIES. And always ignore the word "NO". Now they've come up with another lie that I'm teaching my daughter to call them swear words. Which is completely RIDICULOUS.
    Just don't answer the door. Or go out.

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    Don't open the door. Or alternatively, if you are under stress at the moment and there is any validity to their concerns about you being alone with the children perhaps they could take the kids off your hands for a couple of hours per day? Put strict limits on their interfering.
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